Interracial Realationships. Im white and in love with a black woman?

Question

I have fallen in love with a black woman, but dont know if its the right thing to do. Im white and live in a tradional white town and dont see any interaccial couples about.

Im 24 and she is 29 and we get on well. Im not sure what people would say. Any advise?

Answer 1

Who cares what people will say if you worry about what people will say than you will loose out on a lot. If your in love than be in love and don't worry about it.

Answer 2

Well, It all depends what is more important. Do you care more about what other people think or do you think you want to take a chance of happiness with this woman?
The only opinions you should listen to would be your family, if you trust your family and they want the best for you. Life can be wonderful if you take risks, how do you know what will happen in the future, never give up on love.
If your relationship is strong you can overcome any obstacles in your path.
Just because there aren't ant interracial couples in your area is that enough of a reason to end things?
Do you want to listen to racists and bigots- before you make your own choices. No matter where you live in the world small minded, destructive people try to destroy happiness. Its your life nobody elses.
There is nothing to say you can live somewhere else if people are putting pressure on the relationship?
Have you thought about your girlfriend, does she have the same feelings, she is obviously not from yuor area, does she live in a black area, and is she worried what people would say about her being with a white man.
Concentrate on making yourself happy and forget about other people, once you let others take control it will endless.
You can find fault with any relationship if you are negetive.
Be positive work on the good parts of your love and hopefully it will work out. I wish you the best, x

Answer 3

Sweetie, If you have met a good woman for yourself then just let things flow. It doesn't matter that you don't have anyone else in your town that's not in a relationship like yours. That's what makes it so unique. You should never question something like this. The only thing that's different is the color of your skin. This woman could be the best thing for you. Do you really want to worry about what other people are thinking and mess that up??? People will talk regardless. If you were dating someone of your own race people will have something to say. If you walk around worrying about what other people are saying then you will never be happy. To be in a interracial relationship you need to have an " I don't care" attitude. You need to also remember that everybody in your town may not look down on it just because it isn't seen around your way. You could be an inspiration to other people in your town that may want to date outside their race also, but is too afraid to do so. Don't follow and listen to what society thinks is right. Live for yourself because in the end your the only one that needs to be happy. By the way i'm a black woman that loves white men.

Answer 4

The only time I have a problem with interracial relationships is the reasons some people use to justify their relationship. Stupid reasons that are ususally generalizations and stereotypical. If the two of you get along very well as you state, I don't see why the relationship can't take a natural course. Everyone's prejudices don't matter if you're as serious as you sound.

Unfortunately, though there will be those that will curse you and your relationship because of their ignorance and racial prejudices with some going so far as to invoke religious beliefs in their foolishness.

If the feeling between the two of you is genuine and mutual, I wish you the best in cultivating a supportive friendship which blossoms into a beautiful relationship.

Answer 5

The color of someone does not represent who they are as a person, you need not worry about what others think becuase if she was white they would just think other things anyways. In society it has become more exceptable to date outside your race but it is how mature you are about the relationship and not be bothered with the people outside the circle you and your girlfriend have become. Just remember this like I have when you kiss you don't see a color of a person you feel the soul of a person that is all your looking for (soulmate) get it, got it GOOD!

Answer 6

Well, in my opinion, just as long you are happy with one another, it doesn't matter what others think. What matters most is what you feel and think is right and what she feels and think is right. If people condemn you because you are a white and she is a black, then they have no say whatsoever because that is not a reason why two people who feels connected to be torn apart. I live in a very diverse community, that is why I don't see any problems with it. Most adults and teens are not "pure" in their race anymore. Perfect example, Tiger Woods. As for me, I am still Asian, but I am mixed with Chinese, Vietnamese, and Cambodian.

Sorry for rambling, but what I am trying to say is, if you want to and she wants to and you two are willing to go through the obstacles/judgments, then so be it. Best of luck!

Answer 7

You are not ready to date a black women yet. By gosh, you are asking others if you should date someone! That has read flags all over it. I never need help figuring out if I need to date someone. You are way to scared to do this. You indeed, are lusting for this women, but you do not love her. Love could never be hindered by color. I've seen proof.

And you may try to trick her to have White views and not respect the fact that she may be different from you. White males are too controlling to be able to understand a Black woman. White guys like you end up walking TWO FEET behind the girl in public and laughin nervously when people walk by, trust me, I've seen it too many times where I live. Then you will eventually dump her out of embarrasment, then she in turn, will definitely figure out why and hate you for eternity.

Just be her friend. Plenty of White guys have Black friends, leave it at that.

Answer 8

Sounds like you're still wrestling with a couple of personal demons. But I think you can get past them.

What other people think doesn't matter. There will always be bigots, but a large part of the world has gotten beyond skin color. You are in love with a woman, who happens to be of a darker pigmentation than you. So what?

There comes a point where we all must stand up for what is right, looks like now is your time. Stand by your woman!

Answer 9

thrilling question. There must be some Hollywood movies that have a love scene with a black guy/white female, yet i won't be in a position to think of of one the two. you need to be good a pair of southern boycott yet any actors nicely worth something does no longer have such themes. My guess is that, because of the fact Hollywood panders to the biggest form of persons a threat with each and every action picture it places out so it will make the main earnings, Hollywood ought to think of no earnings ability in a action picture like that. this is humorous, because of the fact i does no longer think of Brokeback Mountain might allure to a great phase of society, regardless of if it made lots of money and gained Academy Awards. you will possibly think of that making a action picture with love scenes between 2 adult men could be a greater physically powerful container workplace threat than a love scene between a black guy and a white female. bypass determine. relatively, come to think of of it, even although the scene isn't shown, To Kill a Mockingbird concerns this situation - a black guy accused of a love relationship with a white female. mockingly, it relatively is the white female making the accusation, which grew to become out to be a lie.

Answer 10

who cares about the jones is what my grandpa used to tell me, if you live according to what others think and what they say you will find yourself unhappy. i have dated for years interracially and let me tell you will always get the looks. dont worry about it, they are actually admiring you, i have learned. as long as you know you love each other that is all that should matter to you. i wish society was not so ignorant and would worry about the larger problems than the minority and he diversity of this country. sweetie let love make you happy because love is not a color, let those who see it as so become blinded. As the old song goes Don't You Worry About A Thing...

Don't you worry...
Happiness & Love is the best medicine enjoy

Answer 11

If you love her than go for it. I have done some interracial dating and you just have to be open and have good communication. Don't be afraid to ask about each others cultures and voice concerns.
Most people don't have a problem with interracial dating any longer, but if you encounter any who do, just be strong in your convictions and beleifs. Let them know that you 2 are in love and nobody can come in between that.