I was sort of going out with this guy from my youth group and he was from a not-too-great background. He got thrown in juvenile detention last year and I don't know when he's getting out. I really don't think I want this relationship to continue, and I really don't think my parents would want us to go together anyway. The problem, though, is that he is totally in love with me. I don't want to hurt him, but I'm tired of having my life restricted by what he's done. I really need help. I want freedom from this.
2006-11-05 05:53:09 · 22 answers · asked by Elia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he really loves you, he'll let you go.
2006-11-05 05:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, think most of the people on here are right. You need to walk away from this before it gets too deep. He clearly isn't the one. You don't want to have someone who has been in juvenile detention anyway. If he is on drugs too for example, he is probably somewhat screwed up inside. I think, although it's the hardest way, you should dump him face to face. If you can't do that, by a whole-hearted letter. Get your parents/friends to help you write it if you need to. If he doesn't take it well and when he comes out of detention, he starts stalking you, you should report it to the police and mention he's been in juvenile detention before, that would give them more reason to see to your protection. You shouldn't have to be restricted by him. At the end of the day, you will both move on, get new partners and wonder why you liked each other in the first place. Good luck.
2006-11-05 18:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lady_Rachelina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to be in this relationship so the best and only thing to do is to end it!
Just be honest with him. Explain how you feel, how sorry you are and that its best it ends now rather than further down the line IE: you're saving you both from more pain.
Say you've had time to think about things since he's been away and maybe you are better off as friends. Cliche i know. But sometimes the old lines are the best!
If he is in love with you as you say then you are gonna be breaking his heart but he'll get over it eventually and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. As long as you nip this in the bud quickly and honestly now.
Whatever you do don't drag it out!
2006-11-05 06:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you dont think the relationship is a good idea anymore, ur feelings have changed but u still love him as a friend or something just so he takes it a little more easy than just calling it off! No matter what u do he will be hurt but someday he will understand why u done that becus if he really loves you he wouldnt want you 2 be unhappy! Wish you all the best huni
2006-11-05 06:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to express you're feelings in a subtile way. I know it is not easy but you can at least try. And maybe it is better for you to just not have a boyfriend at all at the moment. You can have freedom from this just try to talk to as many possitive people about you're isseu, and maybe you can come up with a solution. Be strong!!! E.S. Ong The Hague.
2006-11-05 06:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by minahassastraat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that what he is doing to his life is effecting your relationship. If he promises to try and change his ways then maybe he can be good for you and if he turns into someone goos then your parents maybe will like him to. Just be honest. If he refuses then say you know what I'm done because you shouldn't have to deal with that.
2006-11-05 05:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just break up with him but make sure that you tell him y so he doesnt think is just so you can go with another guy. trust me I had a boy friend that went to juvi to and even though we lasted for a hole year i couldnt take it any more and had to break up wit him . N ow we go to the same school and we get along just fine.
2006-11-05 06:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by JoJo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should be honest with him but tactful, just tell him you like him but don't want a relationship with him. I think you should cut these ties with him, you are still young and don't want this following you around. To be honest i think you have already decided what you are going to do, you just have to be strong and a little selfish i suppose and think about yourself for a chnage. xxx
2006-11-05 06:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by looby1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look after yourself - the best advice you can ever have. Obviously he's in love with you - he's bound ot say that because he wants to keep hold of you as your his hope while he's inside. Ask yourself how you honestly feel and act upon it - it's the only way!
2006-11-05 05:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by fatboyslick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter telling him your feelings. This will give him time to get used to the idea and any hurt or anger that he may have will probably subside in time.
2006-11-05 05:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by KB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell HIM. You can't end a relationship with someone without hurting them. That's a part of life.
2006-11-05 06:02:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋