me gf got really pissed at me today cause i didnt wake her up.i was supposed to meet up with her today,but because she went out lastnight and got in really late she woke up around 5pm.then she rang me and said why didnt i wake her up??(with attituide).i told her its cause i wanted her too have a good sleep and not be tierd.Then she wanted to know if she still could see me..i told her there was no point cause it was late and she needs to get in early...now she's pissed at me...please who's in the right here?
2006-11-05 05:38:52 · 27 answers · asked by lovelylad0712 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
life's too short for quibbles, just forget it.
2006-11-05 05:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kate J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a no-win. I bet she would have shouted at you had you woken her too. Say you are sorry, but that you really couldn't have expected her to wake up as late as 5pm! Say that you will wake her in future if she wants, but she will have to tell you in advance what time she wants to be woken. But why doesn't she set an alarm like normal people?
But I don't understand why you didn't want to see her if only for a few hours?
Anyway. Work out a system for next time, so you both know what is expected of the other.
2006-11-05 13:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by helen g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the right. She just doesn't notice what she has right now. Not all guys are really considerate and feel that what you do is on you until it comes to having time for them. If she can't see that, then it's not about what you felt was best for her. She obviously wants to be around you, but was upset at you for not waking her up to see you. If she really wanted to see you, she would have set an alarm earlier before she decided to stay out late. So ask yourself if she's worth it for you to always take the blame in future times. She needs to get herself together and put things in order. Does she always seem to have everything together with other things? If so, then she expects for you to demand her time and that's not what relationships are about. Think about it and observe.
2006-11-05 13:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you is right or wrong. If she wanted to see you and knew that she had to wake up at a certain time whats wrong with an alarm clock . On the other hand if she and you had discussed this prior to her going out and she had asked you call her you could have done what she had asked.
It was up to her to set an alarm if she wanted to wake up and
it was up to you to give that one phone call to let her know that it was a certain time.
Maybe a compromise of some sort can be figured with this situation.
As its too late to see each other talking on the phone might substitue for the time being until you get to see each other
There is always tomorrow to see each other.
your concern is very honourable and nice as well. To consider that she needed the sleep. her sleeping as late as she did shows that she needed the rest.
Take time to talk it out and comproimise on both sides is good
passing blame never gets anyone anywhere.
good luck
guys and girls do think very differently
2006-11-05 13:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hmmm depends on what you were going to meet up for - if it was something important you had planned for ages - then you were in the wrong - if it was just a coffee - then shes in the wrong as you were being thoughtful and letting her have a lie in.
honestly - this whole argument seems kinda petty and stupid so it really isnt even worth bothering over! xx
2006-11-06 07:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one is right or wrong - the better solution wld be to wake her at 1pm and have a hlaf day with her - its too lat enow - the questio nyou need to ask yoursel fis do you want to be in in a relationship or do you want to be right
if ts the former then apaologise put it behin dyou and learn for next time to not be so extreme and let her suffer if thats what she wants
but if you want to be right then keep arguing with her and see if she sees your side
bottom line no one is right really
2006-11-05 15:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is, Why weren't you out with her? I would have called and woke her up just out of spite. You hung yourself when she asked to c*m over and you shot her down... BAD MOVE...I would bet she is more upset about you not wanting to see her than the calling issue.
2006-11-05 13:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This gf of yours is lazy, wake up around 5p.m.,
then call you and want u to meet her. As young
as she is she does not need anyone to get her
up, if she knew she had a date then she should
have automatically gotten up and you both would have gotten togeather. As for whoe fault
is it hers for not getting up and yours for not
telling her how irresponsible she is.
2006-11-05 13:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your fault. Tell your girlfriend to buy a good Alarm Clock and make sure to set it every night. Break this news to her gently though, or she will soon be your ex-girlfriend.
One day, you may be married -but you arent responsable for her rising from bed, or she for you.
2006-11-05 13:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your right she went out last night abovouisly she needs sleep, and its good you care, next time you see her buy flowers for her but you are right in your place and she shouldnt mind
2006-11-08 08:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are more right than her that's for sure. But I'm guessing she wanted you to get her up and if she made that clear to you than i can understand her being upset. No one likes it when someone else decides whats best for them.
2006-11-05 13:43:08 · answer #11 · answered by cannoninthehouse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋