Boyfriend is a bad kisser?

Question

I don't know what to do about it. I'm not all that experienced, really, but I know he's doing it wrong. I feel like he's giving my face a friggin' bath. And when he french-kisses, he just kind of juts his tongue in like a snake. It's weird and I know it's wrong. I like him, but I can't stand kissing him. I don't know what to do. How can I fix this without hurting his feelings? He's way more experienced than I am, so I know I have to do this delicately. He's bound to think, "How would she know?" Y'know? :/

Answer 1

Just because he's more experienced, doesn't mean that he's had GOOD experience. You may want to try coaching him verbally. Or it might be a good idea to demonstrate how you'd LIKE to be kissed. You can do this in a sneaky way, too. Just tell him to relax, sit back, and let you kiss him without him kissing back (works best if you're sitting together rather than standing). This can also be a BIG turn-on, though, so be prepared... If he likes it, he'll probably pick up the technique.

Answer 2

a tough one try this take his face in your hand and hold it when he tries to kiss him give him a tease by moving your mouth from his when he tries to kiss smile and try this till he understands that in this game you are the driver give him small kisses tease with your tung don't let him kiss you back maintain control until you have thoroughly given him a sample of what you like when he begins kissing you the way he likes moan or make a yummy uuuummm sound like you are really enjoying it
repeat as necessary good luck

Answer 3

I've been there. Tell him to let you kiss him and have him follow your lead. Just say "This is how I like it" he should get the hint. My husband did and now it's great. O.K. I did tell him it wasn't a race either and to slow down but I'm not shy.

Answer 4

Its not that he is a bad kisser. Its just not the way you like it. Sometime in his past a girl taught him that way because she liked it that way. You have to tell and show him what you like. If he cares for you then he will accomidate your taste in kissing. On occasion if he likes it mushy then you have to accomidate his likes.

Answer 5

If you can't be open and discuss it with him then you need to find someone mature enough to have the conversation with. His feelings might be hurt at first but the longer you wait the more it will hurt.

Answer 6

you have to talk to him, the worst thing that can happen is you break up and don't have to deal with the bad kissing anymore, but really good communication is the key to a good relationship.

Start communicating.

Answer 7

Before you kisss, you should say "I want to try something different." Then tell him how you want to be kissed. Soft, slow, gentle, ticklish. Then ask him how he likes to be kissed and do that for him. Sometimes it takes exploring before you both find something you can agree on.

Answer 8

just be honest w/ him, and maibe u could suggest that u 2 should practice at it. idontknow that's what i think. if he likes u enough, he might try and change for u. good luck. i hope everything works out great=)

Answer 9

Experience doesnt mean anything if youve been practicing it wrong the whole time...you have to just speak up! Its better than him wondering why you are always reluctant to kiss him.......

Answer 10

Good luck. I had the same problem. I even tried to show him what I liked and he would still drown me in spit & choke me with his tongue. I gave up after 5 years. The sex was even worse!