I am in love with 2 completely diffrent men and I need some advice.?
I think I have fouond the love of my life , but the timing was off. since then i have gotten with a guy for the past 4 yrs and all we really have in common is sex, the sex is great but I want more from life.the first guy wants me back and there are a few complications but I can see the love in his eyes and feel it in his touch. The 2nd guy has been in jail for the past 7 month and it is not the first time since we have been together. Should I dump the jail bird and go with the man I know I love. I love both but in completely diffrent ways. The first one I will always love because he makes me smile, he is funny and charming and he is so sweet to me and makes me whole. The 2nd one says he is trying to change to be the man I want him to be and to not get into anymore trouble. I love the 2nd one but I know I will never love him like I do the first. Long store short 2 days ago I slept with my x and I am not sorry about it. What should I do Am i wrong? I need sopme advice please help!
2006-11-05 05:26:49 · 21 answers · asked by southernchick340 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pick the best one - It has to be your decision
2006-11-05 05:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by Claire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't know either of these men. It sounds to me like you are at a fork in the road right now. You can take one route, but it may not be the right one for you. So you just have to take a chance. But don't take that chance until you can thoroughly think it over, and weigh the pro's and cons which it sounds like you have already done. First of all, consider if you want to live with someone who has been in prison for any amount of time, because keep in mind jobs, insurance, loans, privelages, etc. are all affected for felons and their families. It also sounds like the "jail bird" was a sex instrument for you. If you TRULY LOVE the other man, go with him. The one you're lovin' is different than the one your f******. You should dump the relationship that is based purely on sex. Sex is a skill to some, it comes natural to some, and some suck at it. But you can still teach the man you love to satisfy you. Communication is half the battle in the bedroom. Communicate to what you want and ask what he wants out of the sexual aspect of the relationship. But overall, go with the one you feel happiest when you are around. And you know who that one is. So good luck with it all, and I hope all turns out well.
2006-11-05 05:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by dumpsterdd90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not pick either one. Why really, do you have to? Be picky. You love neither of them in the way that you should fully to commit. I say and this is harsh, dump them both and move on to somebody new. They have to do it for you mostly all they way around. Man number 1, it sounds like he does not do it in the sexual department. You will get tired and bored and eventually want to stray. Man number 2 is no man, in jail again? He is an idiot and you do not ever need that.
There is a man out there for you. With love, attention and chemistry. Good Luck!
2006-11-05 05:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. Definitly go with the one you know you truely love. Drop the jail bird, he'll always be a deadbeat and if you have kids you don't want the father to be in and out of jail and the child not have a father.
2006-11-05 05:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out what love is first. You can only be in love with one man, otherwise it's not love. Love has become such an overused term to people these days. It's not special anymore. People are "falling in love" everyday and falling out twice as often. You are either in love with one of them or neither of them, but not both. If you were really in love, you wouldn't have any trouble choosing.
2006-11-05 05:29:53 · answer #5 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, achieved that. i've got faith for you. that's a foul dilema yet you will at last ought to come to a decision. that's merely too complicated to juggle 2 loves & will at last tear you aside. It jogs my memory of the music "Torn between 2 enthusiasts". there are cases whilst a woman has to declare what's on her recommendations even nevertheless she is conscious how lots it is gonna harm previously I say yet another observe enable me inform you i such as you enable me carry you close up and say those words as gently as i'm able to there is been yet another guy that i've got mandatory and that i've got enjoyed yet that would not propose i such as you much less And he's conscious you are able to no longer very own me and he's conscious he in no way will there is merely this empty place interior me that merely he can fill refrain Torn between 2 enthusiasts, feelin' like a fool Lovin' the two one among you is breakin' all the guidelines Torn between 2 enthusiasts, feelin' like a fool Lovin' you the two is breakin' all the guidelines you ought to no longer think of you have failed me merely by using fact there is somebody else You have been the 1st actual love I ever had And all the failings I ever pronounced, I swear they nonetheless are actual For no person else could have the area of me I gave to you refrain i could no longer somewhat blame you in case you grew to become and walked away yet with each and every little thing i've got faith interior, i'm asking you to stay refrain Torn between 2 enthusiasts FADE Feelin' like a fool Lovin' the two one among you is breakin' all the guidelines .
2016-12-28 13:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really be in love with two people at once. From what I can gather by what you wrote... You're in love with the first guy and you care about the second. You need to follow your heart. Be with the person that makes you truly happy.
2006-11-05 05:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by jadelily78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the jailbird, there is probably something wrong with him if he's in jail. Go with the one you love, it'll be easier to tell the other guy you don't like him if you really don't. I mean, just thing about telling someone you truly love that you don't! Go with the one you like better.
2006-11-05 05:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by No Name 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Silly girl, why would you not go for the man you love????? And you should never marry/commit expecting someone to change...it never works out. Do you want the father of your children to be a jailbird?
2006-11-05 06:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not setting the stage for a good married life..
Stay away from jail guy..
You have already cheated on b/f..
Find a new b/f and be loyal to him this time...
2006-11-05 05:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dumb the jail guy oh plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz dump the jail guy and go out with the other one.
2006-11-05 05:33:40 · answer #11 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋