2006-11-05 05:25:21 · 15 answers · asked by Miranda C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl there is more fish in the sea,,, have you ever heard that quote?,,,
well you know I had a x that i could just not get over
I made a list of all the things that I thought that he was no good about and a list of the good things about him...
well come to find out the list of the bad things beat the good things and now i am married to a great man that means the world to me and now i am glad that the bad things won...
2006-11-05 05:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by babyqball176 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy letting a relationship go out the window, so trying again is always a choice so U know if it could work out. However, this next time make sure U're a bit more aggressive. It's hard 2 trust the person U love, specially when they've lied. The thought of him being w/ some one else will never leave Ur mind, but if Ur strong then U can put it behind U. It's easier 2 forgive then 2 forget!!
2006-11-05 13:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by ♥less 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's betrayed your trust, and that's a hard thing to get back, it takes time. You probably have the fear that he'll do it again or that he's done it in the past without you knowing. If he truly wants to work it out and you still love him than its worth the try. But you need to be careful, really take some time to examine your feelings without him around. You may feel that its not worth it or he isn't worth it. You do deserve someone that loves you and only you and won't hurt you like that. People can change and he may be that guy, so keep an open mind but don't jump to any decisions.
2006-11-05 13:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by cannoninthehouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with a guy for three years when I found out he had slept with my best friend. I tried to forgive and forget, but the fact of the matter was, I couldn't. I was too terrified to lose him, but in the end, everytime we had the tiniest disagreement over trivial things, I'd end up bringing that up. I'm not to sort of person to throw things back in people's faces, but there was so much resentment there that I couldn't help it. In the end I had to end it. When I first finished with him, I thought I would never fall in love with anyone else again, but I did and I'm now happily seeing a guy and have been for two years, who would never cheat. In short, I think that once trust is broken, it is nearly impossible to ever get back. I think you should let go. If he gets away with it once, what's to stop him thinking he could get away with it again.
2006-11-05 13:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by Cheeky123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry miranda that you had to go thru that. i've been in your situation before and i know how much it hurts. whey my guy cheated on me i was so angry but at the same time couldn't stand a life w/out him. so i gave him a chance. tried to forgive and forget...and although some people can easily do that...majority of the time it's hard to forget once the trust has been broken. you start to wonder even tho u try hard not to if he's gonna cheat on you again and start to get paranoid at times. if you think your one of the few who can honestly forgive and f orget then give him another shot. in my opinion i think you deserve better..everyone does..no body deserves to get cheated on. it's painful...and nobody will understand that unless you've actually been the victim of infedility. for your info...although i gave my guy a chance at the time...it never worked out...cuz later on my trust got in the way and no matter how hard i tried...i couldn't get over it and i kept thinking he was cheating on me all the time. that's what happens sometimes when trust is broken...u can never get it back unless your one of the few strong people who can actually say...o well i'm over it.
2006-11-05 13:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by shabambam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough decision. He needs to earn your trust again if you give him another chance. Things will be difficult at first because you can't pick up where you left off. You may want to consider taking some time away from him and really think things through before making a decision.
2006-11-05 13:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't except him cheating on you. Then don't. Tell him that he had no respect for you. And that you care about yourself. And since he thought the grass was greener on the other side, then you hope that he is happy, because you do not want him, since he has been with her, tell him to go back to her. Yes it is going to be hard, but in time you will get over him!
2006-11-05 13:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people can get past it. You won't forget it but in time you won't think about it as much. Just be sure if you are willing to try you don't throw it in his face during fights. Get everything out now you need to and then move on. If you don't think you can let it go then you need to end it. It's not fair to you or him.
2006-11-05 13:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you never give him casue again, fulfill his needs give him ANYTHING he want where ever whenever whatever he wants O A BDSM FFM MMF Outdoor dogging anything.....happy dogs do not stry..or risk a lonely life without him, getting fatter and older alone while he gets what he wants from the thousands of women who will do all the things he loves.....
2006-11-05 13:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to work it out? That's code for "forgive me and don't nag me about it".
You may not ever be able to trust him again and that can be devastating in a relationship. Only time will tell.
Good luck.
2006-11-05 13:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋