My bf gets angry at me sometimes, for seemingly little stuff. Most of our problems are from the way he reacts to things. For example, if I do upset him in some way, he will just go inward and not tell me, but think I'm supposed to know just from his non-verbal actions, and I don't always get it right away. Then, he gets madder if I try to talk to him during this time, and instead of just saying it or talking about it, he flies off the handle and will do things like walk out in the middle of doing something. He also has gotten upset with me in the past if I didn't call when he thought I should have, etc. I try really hard to be a good person to him, but I'm not perfect. It feels like he's okay with me taking all of his bad & good together, and loving him unconditionally, but when it comes to me, I feel slighted because if I don't give a perfect performance each time, he gets upset. What would you do if you were me? I'm really asking because I want someone looking from outside in. Thanx
2006-11-05 05:04:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is not the type of person, who you want to spend the rest of your life with. For one thing he can not communicate with you. You end up fighting a losing battle. You should not have to be on your peas and ques, all of the time, no one is perfect. But the Lord above. Do not waste any more of your time on this relationship. because you will never be happy. so it is time for you to start to think of yourself! Do what makes you happy!
2006-11-05 05:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the roles are reversed here.
I'm gonna be honest. Sometimes I feel this way towards my boyfriend. It just seems like he does things on purpose just to make me mad. Or maybe it's just all in my head. And if things don't go as planned, I kinda act disappointed and just... out there. I don't really know how to explain it. For example, we always hang out with our friends... so we hardly get any alone time. And when we finally do, his friend decides to call and says he wants to hang out. My boyfriend wants to and I have no problem with hanging out. But it was the only time it could be just us for one night. I didn't want to look like a ***** and say no. So, in a way, I just kinda fake-smiled about it and shrugged... kinda looking disappointed? I don't know.
Perhaps in a way... acting disappointed is a way to get him to chase after me... just like he used to do before we were going out...
And I love the feeling of being chased after.
I don't know what situations happen with the 2 of you.
If I were you, I would tell him how I felt. I would let him know that I notice his reactions and that he should talk to you instead. Maybe he's not talking to you about it because he's wanting you to notice that you did something that upset him... but you're not noticing it. So he keeps waiting and gets even more upset when you don't. I don't know what happens with you 2 and what his reason is... I'm not there. So I don't know if he has a reason to be upset? Just talk to him about it if you really love him. That you want to do everything you can to fix it and not make him upset at little things.
2006-11-05 13:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the best way is to discuses this with your bf when he is in a cool mood. Telling him how you work hard to be best to him.
Love is unconditional but It is better he realize how much you love him. Normally people of different conciousness level can't make together. If you feel the different then you need to work hard. When you don't feel the love, and happiness and get hurt all the time, what is the use of such relationship?
It is then better to find a pair of same conciouseness level.
2006-11-05 13:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by DIm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure no problem, i really think you need to talk to him, even if you feel he will flip out. Are you really happy being with him?
if he continues to act this way, maybe it would be best if you did move on and find someone else, or just hint that to him and mabe the situation will get better.
good luck.
2006-11-05 13:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by david g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he needs to see someone its not right for him to get angry at every little thing , he has some anger from other problems built up. well thats just my opinion talk to him abou thow you feel, in a relationship your suppose to be happy and feel comftroble.
2006-11-05 13:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by PrETty iN pUrPle* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like baby maybe his mom spoiled him or just the opposite it is hard for people to change .I am a real A hole I work on that every day. its a slow process if you love him stay with him just realize he may never change
2006-11-05 13:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by ponchandjohn101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it is him but you two should go see like a guidance councelor or someone like that
-MCR LOVER
2006-11-05 13:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rainy Day Lover <3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think you should be with him.
2006-11-05 13:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by ndogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him... talk to him about it or dump him...
2006-11-05 13:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by Lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU
2006-11-05 13:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋