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whether or not they're greedy, you shouldn't tell anyone because for one thing it's not their business, and for another, it will change the dynamics between you. people will natually expect you to offer them something, and no matter how much it is, they will think it not enough, especially compared to so and so ,etc. they will resent you no matter how much you give them because you are in a position to be generous and that gives you power no one else has; it sets you apart and when one person is set so far apart from the others in their family, it is difficult to maintain positive relationships; it's just human nature to be distrustful and at best uncomfortable with someone outside your group, and if you have alot of money and they don't you will definitely be outside their group
i recommend telling no one. if people question why you have more things or more of whatever, let them question; you're not obliged to answer; if you can continue to live comfortably and not be lavish with your newfound wealth, you can have security and you can help your family anonymously when need arises.
lucky you
i've experienced the opposite equation; exteme poverty for most of my adult life because i've been left to raise kids alone; over the last twenty years, everyone has moved on economically and have by turns removed themselves by some degree from my life because my poverty embarrasses them and excludes me from joining them in most of what they do; again, it's human nature; we started out in the same social group but time and circumstances have moved us in different directions; at least you can hide your wealth
god bless

2006-11-05 04:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by soobee 4 · 0 0

Dear friend, Greed is usually caused by a need or the belief of a need per the person you are dealing with. Ask yourself, does my family truly have a need and if so, how can I help them? You may not find the need to tell them your source of income, but, I recommend you consider your conscience. If you are going to help your family, why not tell them God has given you a gift. If you do not come from a Godly minded family, maybe this could be a testimony on how God works in our life. Remember, we all have needs. Another solution might be to give some of your money to a worthy non profit organization. Perhaps choose a homeless mission or one that you know helps your community. Good Luck and God Bless.

2006-11-05 13:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by P.J. 1 · 0 0

I would advise you not to. I won £5000's worth of holiday vouchers three months ago and I felt awful trying to stretch the money to give all of my family and friends a holiday. Eventually my best friend of nearly 20 years fell out with me as I would not agree to use the voucher for her to go to New Zealand which would have taken up about £2000 of the voucher. She has not spoken to me since....
I have vowed that in the future if I ever win anything substantial I will tell no one. The old addage of money, etc causing problems is very, very true.... and if this happened with £5000 worth of holiday vouchers you can imagine how much stress you are in for with potentially more money than this...

2006-11-05 12:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Do not tell them. Spend the money on an education, so you will be able to spell properly. Capital letters at the beginning of a sentence wouldn't hurt, either.

2006-11-05 12:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If you felt like giving them anything, you could do it anonymously. Then at family gatherings, should the subject come up, you could play dumb and say you got something too, and you don't have any idea where it came from.
If you don't want to give them anything, you have the option of not saying a word. It's up to you.

2006-11-05 12:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by northernbornsoutherner 6 · 0 0

NO NO NO NO....by the way how much did u get, and can u lend me a few bucks???
No jk of corse u should thats why there ur family.

2006-11-05 12:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by NEWTOME 3 · 0 0

If you must say something to them.
Tell them it was a 'modest' win
Help them out if they need it, but dont give in to demands.
..And never, ever let on the exact amount.

2006-11-05 13:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by knowitall 4 · 0 0

If it's big oney tell them cuz they'll find out eventually, but if it's not a huge amount just keep it to yourself =]

2006-11-05 12:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by Shorty 2 · 0 0

Quietly give it all to charity and tell nobody.

2006-11-05 12:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by MCP 3 · 0 0

Yes tell them - but don't give them any!

2006-11-05 12:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by Musicol 4 · 0 0

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