not sitting with my family and going to another room?

Question

well my family normaly all try to sit togther for dinner on a sunday and only a sunday.well normaly theres not anoth chair so i go in my room or in the living room.well today there was a space as my other sister whent out and i didnt wont to sit there,my mum had a right go at me and sent me upstairs,well 5 min later she calls me down and says i can have dinner,i ask if i can go in the living room and she says yes.i rang my bf up and he said im been out of order cause they wont me there,i find it borring as the stuff they talk about has nothink todo with me.
when my bf was over last night we whent and sat with my parents and my bf said tehy were happyfor us to join them,i find it borring as my bf talks to my dad and my mum whent out the room to do somethink.im 17 by the way if you wanna know my age

maybe be some spelling errors sorry for that

isit out of order wot i did,my family tak about stuff that doesnt intrest me

Answer 1

If Sunday is designated as family day, suck it up and join the family. It doesn't matter if it is boring to you, it is what it is. You might want to try getting involved some. Maybe ask if someone wants to play a game of cards or a board game. You are the one making yourself miserable here. Quit being a baby about it and try to have some fun. Sounds to me like you are sulking because you aren't getting to do what you want. I believe in family time. Even if it is boring, you should always take time to connect with them!

Answer 2

I can understand your point of view if you usually are forced to sit in another room because there is not enough chairs, but you should really use these opportunites to listen to what they are talking about exactly, your 17 and it wont be long til you move out and these moment are the last ones of you homely family. Could you not try to talking or listen to them for a while during dinner then you can go about your business. Parents are boring but in a few years you'l be talking about the same stuff so try to put in your 5 cents now and make some memories worth remembering.

I've only had 1 glass if you were wondering.

Answer 3

have u tried starting conversation about something that you like to talk about when with the family ? you are at an awkward age where you have your freedom to go out etc but you must try to re adjust into the family way its only 1 day a week they want 2 sit as a family? if you are bored and mum goes out of room go and ask her why? and can you do something together while you are out of the room cook? just a suggestion pls pls don't give up on your family its the only one you ever get and if you miss out on things now you will allways regret this and that's from experience speaking hope all turns out well 4 u and your family

Answer 4

look they are ur parents and if you where to lose them how would u feel sorry if that is a bit drastic but as the saying goes "you dont what u have until its gone" and it is so true... my mum was murdered and the feeling of not doing my best by her is still with me today, i am only 26 by the way.... all that i mean is that u never know wot is round the corner so show the people u love and care about just how much u appreciate them, and sitting down to Sunday dinner ain't to bad all you have to do is sit and eat u dont have to talk unless u want to...p.s sounds like u have a nice boyfriend who wants wants wots best for u.... good luck

Answer 5

You have to take the rough with the smooth with families. So, they are boring. So what? You could always try to lead the conversation, ask them about stuff that interests you, tell them a funny story that happened that day. It's great that your bf gets on with them - some people find relations with the "in-laws" get in the way of their relationship with their partner.

I don't think it is all your fault, though. They should have tried to include you more from the beginning. Why does your sister get to sit with them and you don't? Sounds very strange to me.

Maybe you should say to your mum that you feel left out, and could they try to include you in the conversation more, and listen to what you say more.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Maybe it's because you have'nt been included at the table with your family for so long you are'nt accustomed to being in a dinner conversation. They should have made room for you before ,then you would'nt feel like you do. You need to try to break out of the pattern you've grown so accustomed to,eating away from the family dinner table, and sit at the table with your family.After awhile you will be comfortable enough at the table to ,hopefully,carry on some sort of conversation with them. Think of it as one way to improve your social skills if nothing else. What a shame.

Answer 7

I'm sorry sweetie but u need to grow up.You sit with your parents for their sake not yours. Remember all the stuff they have done for u well this is a chance for u to repay them.They love u and want your company at the dinner table.I don't think that is to much to ask for and u shouldn't either. Try to get involed in their conversations. Plus your bf is right and seems to get it.I'd hold on to him he seems like a diamond in the ruff.

Answer 8

i dont thnik your being out of order , just a bit inconsiderate,if you think of all the stuff your folks do for you ie taking you places letting you have cash advance etc then surely sitting down together once in a while is not so bad ,its just out of your normal routine, you are used to eating in your room ,watching tv or dvd etc as you want, think of it from your mums point of view,..... her kids are growing up, she knows that soon they aint going to be there n its noce for her to have her family around, i am a mum of 40 and i have four kids, the eldest is 22 and i also have twins that are 9 ,we dont often sit together cos everyione doing there own thing and i miss it to
.all i seem to be is the cook and cleaner and taxi and cash lender, i seem to be good eough for when they want something but notr good enough when they dont.
When you have family of your own then you will see all this, but not until.
As for yor bf coming to see you and your family likimg him then that is a goosd sign cos if they didnt like him then he wouldnt be in there home would he. at least you know that they approve n are happy for him to be there , my last advice is cut some slack hunand give in gracefully .its not as if they ask you to eat with them every day is it

Answer 9

When you live in someone else's house you unfortunately have to live by their rules whether you like it or not!

I find it sad that you don't want to spend time with your family. There comes a day when you won't have them there to talk to and you will wish you had listened to them when you had the chance.

I lost my dad when i was 16. I would give the world to just hear him talk about star trek (and other stuff that i had no interest in) now. There's so many things i wish i had asked and now it's to late.

So please don't be selfish and try and involve yourself in their world. It can't possibly be THAT boring that you have to separate your life from theirs completely!

Your bloke sounds like a really nice young man. Very polite. Not many young lads would want to spend time with their girlfriends parents. He's definitely a keeper!

So please, Just remember how lucky you actually are.

Answer 10

Not many teenagers want to sit with their parents but it means a lot to parents for their children to sit and talk to them for a while and acknowledge that they're there, it might seem boring but give it a while or shift the conversation to something you want to talk about. And they seem to really like your boyfriend which shows that they show an interest in your life and still want to be a functional part of it. My parents are the same with me and my brother and i know how it means to them when we spend time with them, even if my brothers girlfriend and my boyfriend are there. It all helps!