My question is however I am in a committed relationship with someone whom I love a lot, but we do have our share of problems, and it seems that when I'm upset with my boyfriend, I call my guy friend to make me feel better I guess. Am I wrong for talking to this other guy. We only talk about things most friends talk about. Sex never comes up or do we ever talk about being together. Please tell me your opinion of the situation.
2006-11-05 04:03:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you really have a problem per se. Does your bf know that this guy is you friend? If so and he doesn't have a problem with it then it's kool. The problem would arise when you start telling your guy friend all your problems and then asking him for suggestions as to how you should fix them. Cause guess what, he's not the creator of the problems and as such is not in a postion to tell you how to fix them. What you need to do is COMMUNICATE with your man, that's the only way to FIX the PROBLEM. By ignoring the problem and seeking solace from another man will only create more problems for you cause what you'll find happening is that your'e gonna start comparing them to each other and constantly asking urself, why can't my boyfriend be more like u and the time may come whereby u start growing really attached to ur friend and eventually sex will come up and u may even consider leaving your relationship on account of false hope. So if u and this guy just talk about everyday thinggs, leave it that way. Do not complicate the friendship by bringing u and ur man's problems into the equation. Like I said before, whatever problems u 2 are facing need to be tackled and resolved amongst yourselves. Your male friend is your male friend and your boyfriend is your boyfriend so talk to him and don't treat him like an outsider.
2006-11-05 04:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! If he is a male and since you never talk about sex, it is obvious that he is a true friend and does not have sex on his mind.
Even though he is the opposite sex as you, you can consider him a friend as any of your girlfriends.
If talking to him helps, then continue talking to him, especially if after talking to him you feel better!
I hope your problems lessen with your boyfriend. If they don't, then maybe you should consider going out more with friends and start seeing other guys!
Good luck!
2006-11-05 04:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by peekie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up! You will find in time that this guy friend is so understanding and your boyfriend has so many problem. Eventually you will cheat on your boyfriend with this other guy. So make a choice now.
2006-11-05 04:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you have done nothing wrong by simply talking to your friend, this is still a touchy issue. Do you feel you can talk about things better with the boy "friend"? Everyone needs a friend to talk to, but how would you feel if you husband found out. How do you think he would react? There's the rub - physician, heal thyself.
2006-11-05 04:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by SuperCityRob 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think thats fine. You're just talking right? It doesn't matter if it was a boy OR girl. As long as you aren't discussing sex or anything of the sort.
2006-11-05 04:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have found that talking to someone else about your relationship problems simply creates more problems and distance between your partner. You should turn to him and try and resolve them instead of going to another guy. (Girlfriends are exempt from this rule, of course!)
Good Luck
2006-11-05 04:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by beautifulonlinebabefantasy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
im going through the same thing. theres nothing wrong with talking to friends. whether male or female.
2006-11-05 04:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he only talks to you as an investment in the possibility of sex with you at some point. this is a fact.
2006-11-05 04:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by phooey 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about this - if you hide it from your man, or you feel like you shouldn't/can't tell him - you're doing something wrong. If you have to be deceptive to keep it up, your heart knows your intentions...
2006-11-05 04:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you talk about wat casual friends talk about, you have no sin my dear, you are just cool BUT try to maintain talking about what casual friends talk about, dont go too far because sometimes it does lead you to doing silly things.
2006-11-05 04:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋