i'm 15 and i recently had sex with my boyfriend of 4 and a half months. he's 18 and he wasnt a virgin but i was. i felt i was ready but now having done it im not so sure. i spoke to my cousin and she say's that he might hav been using me but i spoke to him and he says he loves me. now i dont know what to think. help!!
2006-11-05 03:50:44 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kirsty, i dont think it will do you any good to get yourself worked up. Part of being in a relationship is learning to trust your partner. If there is anything about him or his behaviour that you dont trust, then maybe you shouldnt be dating him in the first place. He might have used you or he might have not, we dont know either of those for sure. I would stick around and wait to find out. If things dont work out as you wanted them to, honey, cry over it and move on. Believe me, there are plenty of men out there. Yeah, i used to hate people telling me that. But it is actually true!!!
2006-11-05 05:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Clueless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 15 as well and my boyfriend and I just broke up we were gonna have sex after prom this year and Im so glad we didnt, ur life isnt worth all the drama that comes with sex, become a recylced virgin and stay absent from sex until ur at least 20 by then u know what ur gonna do with ur life! BTW my boyfriend was 16 soon 2b 17 and dont tell ur parents they could put him in Jail, leave him and let that be that, they say they love you but they really dont trust me 7 exboyfriends u learn sooner or later!
2006-11-05 12:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by airforcebeauty06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he is an adult and you are not. Your relationship with him is illegal. He is at an age where most young men tend to bed hop. He should not have had sex with you and should not in the future either.
You need to remember that your body is not for his use. Tell him you are not ready for a sexual relationship. IF he really loves you he won't pressure you about it and he will be ok with it. IF he is only using you, he will leave within a month. Good Luck
2006-11-05 11:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ladythang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been raped. He is 18 and you are 15. I think you should break up with him. I hope that your parent don't find out because even though u both consented to sex your parents can file charges on him and put him in jail. Then he will feel what it is liked being raped.
But you are only 15. You need to concentrate on you education and your future. You have your whole life ahead of you and having sex can really change things for you future if something happens. You could get pregnant! (U ready to be a mommy?), you could get a disease that you will live with the rest of your life. Too many consequences.
2006-11-05 11:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
At 15 you are too young for love. Stop having sex with him for another 4 months and see what happens. If he tries to talk you into sex tell him no and if he breaks up with you then he was using you. If you continue having sex use condoms, stds and being a teen mom isn't fun.
2006-11-05 11:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by miss m. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL!!
you should have not done it in the first place now as you have there is no need to cry over a spilt milk. i am a 15 year old my self. these things do sometimes excite us teenagers but we should keep far.
now i think the solution lies not in being rude to your bf but instead just be friends and try concentrating on other things.
you need to come out of this mess. go for a holiday or something.
most importantly relax.
let bygone be bygone.
2006-11-05 12:06:12 · answer #6 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your boyfriend, not your cousin. If he says he loves you then trust that. If he was just using you then he wouldn't have anything to say to you now. If your uncomfortable about it talk to him, don't do it again until you feel better about it. I am sure he will understand. The biggest mistake you could make right now is to keep doing it if you didn't like it, it made you uncomfortable, or it made you feel guilty. The first time is the hardest, but let the next time be special.
Ultimately, TRUST HIM and talk to him about how you feel.
Good Luck!
2006-11-05 11:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Feeling Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he waited 4 months to have sex with you that isnt the only thing that he wanted from you it took me 18 years before i lost mine and i now know that the person that i lost it to he only wanted me beacause he was horney and thats what i thought but he told me diffrent and i beleved him but my friends told me that he loved me and that he wanted to be with me for the rest of my life and it wasnt true now i have a better person in my life and i love him alot more then i did that day. but you are still young and there are more fish in the sea!
2006-11-05 12:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by sexy princess 22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my state 16 is the legal limit so every state is different, lol at one poster only 15, 7 ex boyfriends already, ahahahaha ,wow the young people today have no direction in life I see
2006-11-05 11:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by streetkritic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his actions will tell you if he loves you or not. does he put your best interests before his own wants and desires? does he consistently do what he says he will do? does he encourage you to do what is best for you?
you should not have had sex so young, you will most likely regret it later, but what's done is done. he should not have had sex with you, he is a legal adult, and you are not. that is illegal.
2006-11-05 11:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by medellia1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋