Do You Have An O.D.D Child???

Question

I think my 3 year old is O.D.D, and I don't know what would be the best way to discipline that type of child. If you know a or have an O.D.D child, what do you do as far as discipline???

Oppositional Defiant Disorder.

I'm not talkind about A.D.D. O.D.D is Oppositional Defiant Disorder. These types of kids are extremely hard to deal with.

Answer 1

I have worked with children with ODD. It is a daily guessing game with them. One day something will work and the next day it won't. This will be an issue you will have to deal with for his whole life. He needs to be diagnose from a specialist to be sure he has it. He may qualify for preschool special ed. You can work with the teacher to come up with a discipline plan that will work both at home and at school. Most of them do like to be rewarded for good behavior, but when they don't get the reward because of bad behavior, that could cause a melt down. Get educated as much as you can. Take every class and seminar offered. Good luck!!

Answer 2

I'm a foster mother and have a whole houseful of ODD kids. What works best for me:

1) Make sure the child knows the rules
2) Make sure the rules are reasonable
3) Enforce the rules every single time, don't let anything slide
4) Have reasonable consequences for breaking rules
5) Consequences should be related to the rule broken
6) Look for your child doing something "right" and praise

Keep in mind that your daughter is only 3 and it's a tough age. Don't be too quick to slap a label on her. Be consistent.

Answer 3

That's a pretty hefty label to stick on a three year old. Most 3year olds are defiant, it's sort of their way of life. That's what makes the group of 2-4 year olds so infamous and wonderful. It may be your child is a bit more outspoken than some, but I doubt you could really make this kind of diagnosis at this age.
Three year olds frequently throw tantrums and are generally hard to get along with, for a miriad of reasons. In most cases it's just a matter of having the boundaries established and adhered to. They don't just try something two or three times, they test the fences on a regular basis. It's just what 3 year olds do.
Strong wills at 3 are actually a good thing. It means you have an intelligent child on your hands, who is fully engaged in mastering the environments around him. It's much better to have one that way than one who is quiet and compliant all the time.
Discipline at this age is usually restricted to short time outs with parental assistance to get back in control. Children at this age do not have the coping mechanisms to regain control, and need guidance. This might require leaving the area for a while, to sit in a quiet place with the child and talk things over calmly. Tantrums are frustration driven, and you should take care to learn not to push things or allow them to be pushed that far. When you see things are moving in that direction, it's time to back up and regroup. It can be done with distraction, redirection to another activity or object. It can also help to designate a spot specifically for the screaming fit to occur in, a place where you can stay close by, and they can get it out of the system. Tantrums need a reacting audience to work, and if you can eliminate the reaction and audience, they usually disappear. After a short time, you can step in and tell them that it's gone on long enough and they obviously need help getting things normal. Then you help. Most times this is just a hold and quiet talk, for you to explain in child terms that while you understand they are unhappy, mad or whatever, they can't behave this way. Then explain what you wanted to see happen instead. It takes lots of repetition, and patience.
ODD isn't usually a diagnosis you see until a child is school aged, and can reasonably be expected to have developed a sense of self control and age appropriate coping skills. At the age you are describing, those would just now be beginning to develop and be learned. Your toddler is probably very normal, and will respond to normal discipline. If you need suggestions, you might ask your pediatrician. Or you could read up on child development, to understand better the stage your child is in developmentally and what you can reasonably expect from him/her. There are many good books on discipline strategies, and it is just a matter of figuring out what works best for you and your child. There isn't a magic formula that works for all children in all situations. Mostly its a matter of consistency on your part, and a loving, firm, patient approach. At this age, it's all about teaching them to deal with things they still don't quite understand, and lack the vocabulary and experience to express or deal with. It starts with terrible twos, turns into horrible threes, and the frustrating fours. Since nobody gave them a rulebook at birth, and you didn't get the one that came with yours, it's a process of trying and learning. They try your patience, and you try to teach them civilized behavior. Eventually you learn what works best for your child, you teach them what they need to learn, and they do learn it. Just takes time. Don't be tempted to give them a label at this point, or decide they have some sort of behavioral problem. If you do that, you will send the message that they are somehow different and difficult. It could become a self fulfilling prophesy- and that's the last thing you need to do to yourself or the child.

Answer 4

Most children are a bit odd.

Hyperactive ones may be either a discipline problem or a physical problem. Some react to dietary changes, such as too much sugar or carbs...try to control that and see it it changes anything...have the doctor help too.

Answer 5

OCD or ADD?

Anywayz my little nephew has ADD, he's teacher once threatened to strap him to a chair.. He peed on his class mates and bit this girl he has a crush on and he kicks everyone in the goonies, really embarrassing considering he's dad is a pastor.

Answer 6

If your talking about A.D.D, it only means attention deprivite diorder.My best friends mom has it, it means try not to get mad at the child or give him something to get mad about. Displin is not hte answer is this case.

Answer 7

ODD or ADD??