Boyfriend of 2 yrs gets txts from a woman everynow and then. Just the other day he rcv'd a pix message. Woman laid out naked on a bed. "BOOhoo...can't wait to have you." What is to be said about that??? he says it started off as just casual and this is the first pix/message he has rcv'd like this one. He says that the field he works in everyone has his number. He says he will tell her to stop and he has no interest in her. He wants things with us to work. He says I should not just jump to conclusions. its just a picture. He's always been a very secretive guy and likes his privacy. Do guys really need all that privacy while they are in a relationship.. I thought you were suppose to be open in a relationship? am i wrong? I wanna believe him and believe that its nothing and its justagirl who is wanting him but am i just blind as to what is going on? Should i continue with him and work on our relationship or is it time to let it go???? Am i wrong for snooping through his phone?
2006-11-05 03:42:16 · 13 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to say it, but it sounds like he could be a player. I would move on....
2006-11-05 03:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not wrong in expecting an open sort of relationship. I am married man and my age is 39. Partners( men and women) in their relationship must not be secretive. They do not need privacy within the relationship. If you were to send a similar sort of picture to another guy, would it be considered as "JUST A PICTURE"?
If that girl who sent that picture to him know that he has already got a girlfriend, she should not send that even as a joke which could possibly harm the relationship. If your boyfriend is lying to her saying that he is still single, then it is not that girl's fault. Your boy frined must be lying. He must be playing around. And agian he might be innocent. If he is cheating, the truth will come out sooner or later. Turning the mobile off when you are together, not arriving on time as arranged or not arriving at all, unreasonable sort of panic while he is talking are all sign of lying. Have you found any difference in your boyfriend from the from before? Has he changed lately? Is he disappeared without you knowing where he has gone? Does he frequently comes out in the private to make a phone call when you are together?
All these things matter.
2006-11-05 04:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by wishbasnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have NO facts that he has done anything wrong! Give him the benefit of the doubt for now. You have NO reason to believe he is lying.
Tell him you don't like this 'privacy. girl thing' going on... and how can he make you confident in the relationship and commitment you have to each other. let him do the work for your love... you shouldn't have to 'snoop',.. he should offer an open door policy until you feel comfortable.
But really, I do not know how he will react.
Good luck... remember, the guy has done nothing wrong.... you have NO proof! she could be some freaky weird girl!
2006-11-05 03:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by cheesytoast 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe give him the benefit of doubt as long as he has done nothing else to make you distrust him. But I think that if it happened again I would for sure show him the door. Maybe it really did happen the way he says~What made you snoop through his phone to start with? Was there a mistrust issue going on already? Good luck girl ~ and talk with him about this some more if your unsure and you want him in your life.
2006-11-05 03:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm sorry to hear you're in this situation, but to me, it really doesn't sound good. I sure don't go sending other guys who I'm not having sex with or at least I haven't talked about having sex with, a naked pic of myself. I think he's up to no good, and he thinks, like many men do, that they can pull the wool over our eyes. We want to believe them, because we just can't comprehend how someone could do something like that to us, but all in all, they are men. Expect the unexpected always. My boyfriend is very private too, but there are limitations to what I feel he should keep secret. I snoop through his phone occasionally too, and the reason for me snooping through his phone really has nothing to do with what he's done to me, but what other people have done to make me distrust pretty much every guy, but just remember, it is very easy to delete things you don't want others to see. A relationship is suppose to be open and there are not suppose to be any secrets. Especially ones like a chic at work sending me naked pics of herself when I'm in a relationship with someone else. That doesn't say much for the chic, other than maybe she doesn't know about you. I hate secrets, and I believe if you stay with the guy, they'll be more to come just like this one. I think you should stop wasting your time and move on to brighter better things, and to someone who puts their foot down to scums like that girl. Good luck in whatever you choose to do.
2006-11-05 03:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by jrw3571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong for snooping through his phone. The question you should be asking is this... Did you trust him before you went through his phone?....If you had no reason to doubt him before then you have no reason to doubt him now. If you thought he was cheating before, then maybe you should talk to him about it. Women are sleazy, slutty, and can be deceiving and a lot of young women like to cause problems. Can she be trusted if she is going to send a naked pic of herself to someones phone. I think you should give your guy the benefit of the doubt. Wait it out and see if there are any other things like this that come up. STOP SNOOPING!!!!
Good Luck!
2006-11-05 03:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by Feeling Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends if you should give him the benifit of the doubt..has he ever done anything like this in the past..like cheating or sumthin?....if so then i would be totally suspecious...i would wait to see if he gets any more pics or messages from this girl.....yeah everybody needs there privacy but you are soppose to be open if you are in a relatoinship with someone....its not kool to snoop thru his phone b/c that is invading his privacy but you are his g/f and you have good reasons to
2006-11-05 03:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by becka b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick that lying, cheating son of a **&&^%%$##@!! to the curb. Don't you sit around wondering if you did something wrong, or whatever. It's just a picture? ITS PORNO. Just a picture my sweet chocolate patooty. He's some type of Don Juan, player somebody and you need to run in the opposite direction. Dude, I wish my bf would get some correspondence like that. I'd drop him with out delay.
2006-11-05 03:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
unless he files some sort of harassment charges against her, then i would say he likes it. the idea of having more than one woman appeals to a lot of men. he can have one in the physical, to cuddle up with or what ever, and the other can be his fantasy lover. the only problem with a fantasy is too many people want to make it a reality.
when i was first married, my now ex wife received many pictures in her e-mail of naked men. she said they were "just pictures" and laughed it off. she eventually left for one of those pictures.
2006-11-05 03:47:47 · answer #9 · answered by wrldzgr8stdad 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's right to snoop through his phone, but, you had some suspicions, which is why you snooped to begin with. I think you should trust your instincts and stop seeing him.
2006-11-05 03:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jon M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋