What should i do?!?

Question

My parents grounded me from everything a couple months ago, and now i did one little thing and now i've "crossed the line".

But my parents did something really weird: they gave everything back to me. They said i can have ALL of my privileges back, as long as i act like an adult. I have to do my own laundry, pay for my own lunch everyday, pay for everything i want, and help pay the bills. But I'm only fourteen and I can't afford of this stuff and i can't get a job.

But the bigger question i have is... Should i do what my parents say and do all the stuff I want to do? Which means like talking on the phone and going out and stuff. Or are my parents testing me? Do they expect me to keep acting like I'm grounded, and that makes me more responsible? Will they finally make it back to normal again when i act more like an adult? I'm confused...

Answer 1

Well, sometimes parents are difficult to understand. But I guess we must be difficult for them to understand too, though they should, seeing that they have been teenagers too. Well, I dont think they expect you to handle all that stuff by yourself. I feel they are trying to get you to understand that there is a lot of responsibility waiting for you as you grow up. I feel you should calm yourself, and then tell your parents that you would like to speak to them when they are relaxed (because if they are tense after work it might be a wrong time, even if you are resonable). Explain yourself to them - tell them why you feel you need to be given a bit more freedom and tell them how you feel if they pick on you. At the same time, try to get their opinion on why they want you to do all the adult stuff. Believe me - they will respect you a lot and cut out the pressure if they feel you can think like an adult. So go ahead and have a chat with them. And if you feel things are not going your way, dont argue. Take a deep breath, be calm, and try to wind up the conversation. You can give it a day's time, and then probably approach either one of them again in a more informal setting - probably your mom.

The main thing is to have a deal with your parents on your priviledges and you and they should both stick to it. It works out best by communicating. So ALL THE BEST!!!! :-)

Answer 2

Sounds like your parents are trying to teach you something. Maybe like follow our rules or take care of yourself. An adult can not say I can't get a got if they want to eat. It not as easy as it seem to be grown up. Try to see your parents side of the issue you don't have to agree but you may understand their thinking in a different way. After you see and understand all the sides of the issue talk it over with your parents and maybe you will be able to find a different solution. This is probably the last thing you want to hear but if your parents didn't love and want the best for you, they would do nothing and let you do whatever, believe me it would be easier for them to nothing.

Answer 3

what your parents are doing is wanting you to make the right decision. for you to understand that you are not an adult, and they want you to realize that what ever it was that you did you deserve the punishment that you received. so, you need to tell your parents that you know what you did was wrong and that you except the punishment that they have given you and admit to them that you are not an adult and that your sorry for trying to act like one. then take the punishment, with out complaining. and trust me before you know it you will get your things back and when you do, show them that you have learned your lesson and that you wont be making that same mistake again.other wise this was all for nothing.