What do you do when you love a guy but the sex isn't as passionate as the relationship it self?

Question

I'm dating a guy we both had said those fatal words to each other and we truely both are happy when we're 2gether .We have a very open honest relationship no secrets no lies so I don't mind his permiscuios
ways He does him an I Do him also .I like being with him and talking to him but the sex between us is boring he has become to predictable the kisses have gotten weeker ,anyway I know it's not another female .Trust me I know but I'm kinda getting that let's be friends than lovers feeling and I want to cut him off sexually .But I love him so I want to be with him and keep him happy ,I could always go else where and get satisfaction but then I'd just be lying to myself cause I know that relationships aren't just a bout sex. but it bugs me because he's 6 yrs Older than me he should know how to satisfy a woman.Or maybe he doesn't maybe the chicks that he's dealt with weren't as exp as me I don't know what to do I want to stick it out with this guy .What can be done Help me please

Answer 1

is he selfish or lazy? perhaps tell him you will have sex with him when he is up for the entire experience, which includes pleasuring you. no quickies for him in the meantime. let his passion for you grow. affection and flirting with each other is good between love making sessions. if he cheats DITCH HIM! good luck

Answer 2

I think that it is more complicated than that. It is true that the first time that two people get together, the guy can be very excited and reach climax very quickly. I think that what can happen is that as the couple get together again,there can be a process of accomodation where they now know each other better and can adjust to each other better,so this initial over excitement thing becomes history and that is a good thing. A think that cheating is a reflection of other things, like the level of the individual's maturity and the possible existince of subconscious fears of commitment and the like. Also, there might be other problems in the relationship. And last but not least, there are a lot of people out there who really are not ready for committed relationships. And how good you are in bed won't change that at all.

Answer 3

Spice it up! Role play, involve sex games, sex toys, add an element of mistery. If you show him things like this, he's bound to get more passionate. Talk to him and tell him you're not being satisfied, he might feel that way too and want to talk about ways to bring the passion back. Go online and look for ways to spice things up. Be creative and adventurous. If nothing else works, see a sex therapist and see if that helps.

Answer 4

as you can talk --- talk --- let him know you are not happy with the sex --- maybe he is complacent --- he thinks he is a sexual dynamo and that his touch is enough --- sad but true

dont be brutal but be honest --- you may find that there is a surprise in store for you both