Ok i have a long distance relationship and there are times when he calls me n emails me regularly and then there are times when he cuts me off like i don't exsist....won't call for a month, no emails nothing...but when i finally talk to him i just cannot tell him how much that upsets me.....don't know what is bothereing me most his behaviour or just me being a doormat.....this has been going on for two years...
2006-11-05 03:31:38 · 20 answers · asked by abc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
mama honestly a long distance relationship he's out doing him while your miserable wondering what he's doing those often frequent breaks of no convo are the moments in your relationship where you should
be doing you and not worrying about him if he really loves you he'll come back home to you you just have to be there waiting with open arms .Don't stop living for you most of us females have a tendancy to be to loyal to our mate so we don't want to do any thing to them to make them not trust us we sometimes put ourselfs in a shell so we wont touch any temptations .Girl have fun do you do be a slave to his emails or calls you have a life to and you deserve happieness also let him have his cake and eat it
too and you wont even care because you are doing you it's that lonely feeling and feeling unapriecated that has you wondering why and what's wrong trust it's not you it's him he's not on your same level or same page so he doesn't think that he's doing anything wrong it's just what he used to doing cause females put up with it be the one to make the changes and instead of following take the lead Make him play your game
2006-11-05 03:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like a doormat, get out. If you feel like he is taking advantage of the fact that you will always be there, move on. Find someone that wants you to be there, not expects it. I think you just have to accept that this guy is only a friend, and a casual one at that. 2 years is a long time to invest in a relationship that is not reciprocated. Find someone else. Good luck
2006-11-05 03:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this makes you uncomfortable, you should not just sit there and take it. You should talk to him about it. If you do and do not get a logical explanation, then I think it would time for you to take a good hard look at your relationship. Wouldn't it be better to have someone close by that you can actually see often and be able to physically reach out and touch? Why waste your time on someone who won't take the time to make you feel important across the miles? You deserve so much more than that!
2006-11-05 03:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I tell you that long distance relationships rarely work. Don't take this wrong but it is such a convenience thing. They can call or email when it works and feels good for them, it is also safe. If you were to move to wherever this person is you would have to relearn everything about them. I have been down this road before. I met a guy online and we talked for about 3 years. I went down to GA to meet him and it was so strange because I felt like I didn't know him. I knew his words on a computer or voice on a phone. My suggestion would be to find someone local.
2006-11-05 03:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is something wrong on your part. Since he does not know what makes you upset , and don't tell him. It is your mistake. To fix it from your side , you have to tell him.
So The best thing to do is to tell him what bother you. If he takes it into consideration , and show you some respect , then go a head and continue with him. If he does not appreciate you , I think , you are better off without him. I think you owe your self this much.
2006-11-05 03:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by alqemlas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....it is you for believing that you have any kind of relationship with this man. There is really no such thing as a long distance relationship; especially for two years!!! You already know the answer to this question. Move along.
2006-11-05 03:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by candace b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if you want me to be really honest with you, this is what I think: it's possible that he could be cheating on you, or maybe there are days when he feels as if he'd rather be with someone who he actually gets to hang around more than with someone far-distant. It's hard for a relationship to work when neither one of you get to spend quality time together, and you know guys....they get fickle, and they're stupid that way, no matter how cute, smart, thoughtful, or funny they are.... You have to tell him that it's bothering you if you want him to understand. Otherwise, it's just going to keep continuing, and one of you could get hurt.
2006-11-05 03:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it is time you leave him and move on. You are not a doormat and should not be treated as one. I would say when he treats you like this next time you should just end it then. Tell him one more time and your done. You deserve to be treated better than that. There are too many nice people out there to let one treat you like that
2006-11-05 03:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been in this relationship too long. Long distance dating does not work. He is obviously seeing other people on the side. Dump him and move on with someone that is local to you. Good Luck!
2006-11-05 03:37:05 · answer #9 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, well now, my dear, I do think your honey has other girls in his life. Your not the only one!!
We're all doormats when we allow ourselves to be. No one can make us be so.
I'd be getting on without this dude. He's involved dear.
2006-11-05 03:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋