Will I ever find a Girlfriend and what could i be doing wrong?

Question

I am not ugly, concider my self not to be a typical guy. Would alow freedom within the relationship as long as that persons loyal. Want to become verygood friends, have loads of fun time together. Enjoy special moments, go on romantic dates and the list is endless. .But when i meet someone they are not serious enough or worried about if im to good to be true and cant handle me. I would appreciate any advice on the matter thanks. Have you also had similar experiences in life.

About the to good to be true bit, I have been told by woman most recently. Is being nice such a bad thing?

I never actually say to woman who i meet that they can have free space and all that.

Could that in its self a bad thing?

All woman have secret barriors and tests to quiz men about. From what I said above could that break a few barriors and contruibute to passing some of these tests that woman seceretly make on men?

Answer 1

How old are you ?? But you will find someone soon , you just have to stop looking !!

Answer 2

You sound like a normal guy with plenty of nice things to offer girls. Unfortunatly, there is really no advice on the matter. All the girls you met that arent serious, that is not your fault. And worried about you being too good to be true? Well, dont tell them all those things, just be nice to her, dont tell her that you would do this..and you are willing to do that..just talk to her like a normal person. Obviously these girls are not the one, and thats why there is no advice to give. Just keep looking, some girl that is serious will come around and realize what a great guy you are, it just takes time, so good luck!

Answer 3

It seams that you think a great deal about your self and could be putting accross the image that you are too good for any woman! It is important that you understand that love does not just happen over night. Love is all about a person loving you as well as you loving them, A relationship will never work no matter how much you love a person if they do not love you back and remember sometimes it is better to have a frienbdship with a person rather then no relationship at all!

A relationship needs to be built up!, IT TAKES TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Did you ever think that its not you but them. Maybe they are not into commitment like you. It may be that they are not into the whole exclusive thing like you are. One rule might be not to get to serious too soon. It might be frightening them away.
Have a time to spend knowing each other and seeing if you are well suited first. You may find that the seaching wanting time is long but in the long run might be for the best in the long run.

I believe in getting to know the person on a slow and steady method first.. Sometimes people today do not want something serious right away or they don't want to feel intimidated.
Go slow it will come and you will meet the right person for you

Answer 5

you said - "When i meet someone, they are not serious enough". Try to start as friends and evolve into a relationship. you can be serious with someone you just met. You sound like a nice guy. Maybe you are going after the wrong kind of girls. Think of things you like to do- play tennis, read ,bike ride, and join a club or group with simuliar intrest. Meeting people, when the focus is on an activity instead of , "starting a relationship" is more athentic and realistic.
Good luck!

Answer 6

Sounds like you're quite a catch! Try not being too serious, too soon. That will scare a girl away. Don't appear too needy. Just take it easy, slow and relaxed and see how it goes.
I've been single for ages. A few flings but not found the right guy yet. I don't consider myself ugly, I'm easy going, hard working, loyal and fun to be with. It's just luck i guess!

Answer 7

I went through the same until I met my current girlfriend. All I can suggest is just be fun and interesting on a date. Dont worry about if she's a keeper on the first couple of dates and just wait and see how it pans out. Women seem to have some sort of sixth sense and may feel pressured. Also 'active listening' works wonders.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Maybe they are put off by your arrogance?

"Would alow freedom within the relationship as long as that persons loyal" <--- What the hell does that mean? You'll 'allow' her an evening out with her friends occasionally?

"i meet someone they are... worried ... if im to good to be true"
Yeah, I'm sure that's your problem, all these woman just cannot believe how lucky they are and so have to dump you.

Answer 9

Two things. 1) You're trying way too hard. If you accept that you can be happy without a partner, then love will find you. You need to be happy with yourself before someone will notice you. That's what happened to me.

2) Just from the description (too goo to be true? give me a break!) You sound a little arrogant. Girls don't like that. Work on it. Sorry if that's wrong, that's just the general feeling i get.

Answer 10

It sounds like you are too relationship-minded for most of the people you date. If you come on too strong you can prove a turn off because you risk making people uncomfortable. Try to remember that you can't pull a plant out of a seed. It takes time to develop. Try to be more casual. Have fun. Strive to make the woman feel comfortable to be with you and well cared for. Give her time to fall for you.

Answer 11

Sounds like you are rushing ahead too fast from one state to the next. Slow down a little. Start by enjoying fun activities and each others company, companionship. Build a friendship first and then see if you can take it to the next level. They need to get to know you, to see for themselves that you are sincere and if you rush it you'll continue to scare them off before you have a chance to cement a relationship.