I seem to grudge any time my bf spends with his frends..i know i'm dumb....its like i sit and wonder..why is he so into chilling out with the guys and stuff..when he's with them, he never calls or msgs..it would have been ok if i had the same feeling..but i'm not sooo into hanging out with the girls..when i'm with them i still think about my bf..is this a guy thing??how do i get over this weird feeling of resentment when he hangs out with the guys??
2006-11-05 03:12:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a guy thing. Hanging out with his friends doesn't mean he cares for you any less. Guys' brains work differently and their thought processes are simpler than that of girls. It's normal to resent it when guys hang out with their friends and don't seem to even remember who you are during that time. When he hangs out with the guys, just do something that you enjoy doing and try not to think of him. You may want to explain to him the mental difference between men and women and tell him that you need for him to remember you and give you a call to make you feel loved. It's not too much to ask.
2006-11-05 03:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Avie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know some people will say you're crazy, you're insecure, etc. and let a guy hang with his friends, OK. But sometimes those uneasy jealous feelings are a barometer. When you two are together, does he treat you well, is he very attentive, etc.? If so, you may be overreacting a little. Maybe you have jealousy issues. If not, your feelings may be telling you something. But just the fact that you mention he doesn't keep in contact with you at all when he's with these friends....hmn. Suspicious. Something you might want to pay attention to.
2006-11-05 03:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you got to chill out. you dont want to smother a guy. thats theeeeeeee worst thing you can do. let him have his time to himself or w/ friends. how would you feel if you did hang out w/ the girls. wouldnt that make u mad that he wouldnt give you room to breathe? you got to learn to deal with this... you cant be together 24/7 thats just nottttttttttttt how it works. in that time spend time w/urself, go shopping go c ur best friend, u know u have one so hang out w/ her. you have to be young, no chick thats old enough to know is not gonna wanna be w/her man 24/7. what do you think it would be like if yall got married think hes gonna be round u 24/7 365 days a year????????? nopeeeee his friends were probably around b4 u, it is nothing against you its just he is not gonna ignore his friends
dont be possesive, its not a good thing, the more u are the less he'll wanna be around you
2006-11-05 03:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by texasdaddy2009 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a internal issue inside you that you alone must face and deal with. In the past before him, have you been lied too or cheated on?? That often leaves scars on the heart and does not heal very easily. Now for the fact that he likes too hang out so often, I would say that due too your internal conflict that you have sorta bacame controlling even thou you may not realize it. Do you have too know every person he chats with when he is online? Do you ask who every person is when he is on the phone? If you do this can only do one thing, push him away. Chances are that you are a water sign, Cancer, Scorpio, or Pisces. What is his sign. Check at astrology.com too see if you two are even compatible using the love match tool. Good Luck
2006-11-05 03:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by The Red Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, its definitely a guy thing. There's nothing wrong with you for no wanting to hang out with the girls as much as he hangs out with his friends either. Men and women have much different needs socially.
Most men feel the need to bond with other men. It doesn't mean he isn't thinking about you while he's out with his guy friends. It's just a need that men have.
2006-11-05 03:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by Joe P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys will be boys. Guys like to hang out with their guy friends, they like to be macho and sit around and play xbox games while they talk about football. Its not like hes doing anything bad. When he doesnt call you, it doesnt mean hes cheating on you, it just means he wants to hang out the guys for a bit. And you should be into hanging out with your girls! And how do you know hes not thinking about you when hes hanging out with the guys? I dont think you have anything to worry about, it doesnt sound like hes doing anything wrong but being a boy! Dont stress, nothins happening! Good luck!
2006-11-05 03:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys like to do guys things and when they are with the guys they will harrass him if he is calling or messaging you all the time. It is a guy thing. Try hanging out with your friends and not thinking of him so much and maybe you will enjoy it more
2006-11-05 03:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By wanting to be with him all the time your are making your time together a common commodity. More isn't better for either of you. You need to make your time together a rarer and higher quality commodity.
Don't smother him, it makes you look needy and needy equals unattractive.
Get your own things going, make him seek time with you. And then strive to make that time higher quality time, not just a hang-out.
2006-11-05 03:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is that you're obsessive. That kind of smothering affection will drive him away. Some people like to have room to breathe in a relationship. Your relationship is your "all", for him it's just a relationship and he has a life outside of it.
2006-11-05 03:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by Lola 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you give him grief over this it will drive him away. Understand that he needs time away to hang with his friends. If you do he will usually appreciate the fact that he has a cool girlfriend who understands him.
2006-11-05 03:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by atablackbelt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋