There have been many guys who I am SURE have liked me, even one that knew I liked him and he like me and he never asked me out. I really don't get it I have been complimented many times on my looks(not that that's all that matters), so I KNOW I am NOT ugly, and I'm really nice I give everyone a chance and I don't care a lot about looks, but they just don't ask me out. EVER. Once there was this guy a lot older than me and I could tell he liked me. He was always looking at me and stuff but he never asked me out even though, I could tell, he REALLY liked me. WHY? I am definitely a virgin(not that it's a bad thing) and I have never even been kissed. Maybe it's because I don't know how to flirt or something. There has been only one guy I think wasn't intimidated by me and he went to college. What am I doing wrong? Guys don't even, when they do like me, tell me they like me. HEEELLPP?!!!!!!!!
2006-11-05 03:10:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
think what you would do.. you know guys and gales aren't that different... would you just come out and say to a guy that you really liked them.. im guessing no as you fear rejection, just the same with guys.
The only difference is that if a girl just want sex all they need to do is lower their standards and you are sure to find a guy that wants some...
If you are good looking then the guys will constantly think that you are out of their league...even though you are giving all the right signals.. and the fact that you are a virgin is something to be held until you find someone that you feel is right.. not something to give away to get someone... your first time is something that can effect how you think about sex so you want someone who... er lets say will be gentle as it is not like the movies... you need someone who cares enough to help you warm-up for the main event.
I have been the guy side of what you described.. and found out that some girls that i thought were way out of my league (as i dont think im that hot) did actually like me and would have said yes if i had asked... as the guy side of it i just didnt want to stick my neck out to be shot down by a good looking girl and possibly lose a friend (good looking friends are a bonus as they make you feel good)... i know that sounds wrong and sexiest but you must admit if you;as a girl, have a good looking guy with you, you feel good.
i think i can garentee that if you are good looking girl, you may have to be the one to stick your neck out... as i think the only guys that may actually have enough confidence to ask you will be people who do it alot, if you know what i mean... not someone you could stick with for a while... but you can judge that when they are standing in front of you.
you dont say how old you are but dont push it..... remeber just like i would find a "nice" girl at a club neither will find a guy... they dont really hang out there.. things like house parties are the best.. you generally know the people, you can be relaxed, you dont have to shout, can get TALKING with a guy and if it goes well you can stand a little closer, you can tell the signals from there.. do they back away or stay close...after a little getting closer you can use the old trick of quiet talking.. this means that you both have to lean in cheek to cheek etc... just dont make the mistake of giving IT away.. stay safe not drunk...
good luck!!!
ps:if you drink dont over doit and dont leave it unattended..... sorry i dont mean to sound like your dad..
2006-11-05 03:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by jimbob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young guys especially those that aren't working it are typically scared to death of their emotional shadow.
They have things go through there heads at this age that is not polite. For a guy that is polite this is a heck of a battle.
They are always afraid of being ridiculed if that side comes out.
Sheer fear of rejection! They can't handle it in this altered state.
Don't worry about it. Ask them out. They just need a little push.
No pressure... especially around peers. The stress of that situation you might not get the answer you'd like or they want to give.
Just keep it low key nonthreatening and cool.
It'll work out if you do that and keep in mind that young guys are basically bipolar every 6 seconds because of hormones.
2006-11-05 11:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kaustaub 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many guys who are really nice, fun loving and attractive are not players. They have trouble approaching girls and need a little help. Talk to them first and do the neutral site coffee or something, If he likes you he needs more time and bam.
2006-11-05 11:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by cosmiccastaway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still in HS, don't worry about it. Guys in their teens are very immature and they are looking for girls with big boobs or who have bad reps. My daughter was a fashion model and didn't get a date until she was in college. Many female celebs like Nicole Kidman didn't date until the were over 18. Your day will come.
2006-11-05 11:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
do you tell them when you like them? confessing that to someone and setting yourself up for rejection is hard - even for a guy. sometimes girls have to give them very clear indicators to help them gain the courage to make a move.
don't worry, you'll figure it all out eventually
2006-11-05 11:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like the way you presented yourself and really wanted to help... but I am stumped. Perhaps you're sending a "don't bother me" signal?
2006-11-05 11:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be the vibe that you may throw to them...do u seem like a person that its hard to approach to?...are u a serious person?...it may seem weird, but all these things throw off negativity and may seem you don't want to be approach...some may be shy and don't know how to approach u....try to change anything negative about urself that you may think u have.
2006-11-05 11:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by indiekajol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a woman looks nice, I would figure that she is spoken for
2006-11-05 13:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by kayef57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋