I thought I met someone I could spend my entire life with and be happy with. Things were going really great. Then one week she just did a complete 180 and went from being the sweetest person I know to the cruelest. She said some really mean, hurtful things. The worst things you could probably say to me. At that point, I guess we just both mutually decided to break it off. I can't envision a happy future without her though. Since she completely changed, I just don't see myself happy in the future ever. It just makes me lose hope in life that a person I loved so deeply could just betray me by saying the most hurtful things ever. I can never forgive her for that. I have done everything for her. She was my purpose for getting out of bed in the morning. I feel like I lost everything. Now that's gone and I have no idea what I should live for anymore. Alone, friends/family are too busy to help me. My heart and spirit are both broken, how do I mend and move on without giving up on life?
2006-11-05 03:00:43 · 22 answers · asked by libertydog85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi I am sorry you are going throe this hurt . a broken heart and a broken spirit is just terrible. i think the best advice i can give you is to try to stay busy as possible . when you start feeling bad and really miserable .get up and get busy exercise , go for a walk . go to out with a friend. if that is not possible then call a friend . allow yourself to express your pain and hurt , and then decide that you are not going to dwell on this woman and the hurt she caused you . and remember you are someone special . and you deserved better than the way she treated you . you and you will forget this love you feel for her. you just need to be strong . each new day is a new beginning for healing in your heart . and one day you will wake up and realize you don't hurt anymore at all . and you might be wondering what was it i saw in her that i thought was so great ..lol i hope this day comes soon for you . you take care and be good to yourself. life is way to short to be unhappy . so go out and find that special someone who is waiting for you . good luck .
2006-11-05 03:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 05:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Dominic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask her why she said those things? Did she give you an answer that made sense? Maybe she got to a point in the relationship that she got scared and this was her way of bailing out. If you cannot forgive her. Then forgive yourself for putting your heart and soul into this relationship with the wacko. I am serious, you have to forgive yourself for what you did. You made "a wrong choice this time". You cannot go forward without giving yourself a break. We all make bad choices from time to time. Keep breathing, eating, and going to work or school. Take it one hour or day at a time. Life don't suck, it is what we make it. Always a choice!!! You could be happy or sad. You choose it. If a woman saw what you wrote they would go hmmmm, sounds good. Or hmmmm, over committed. Or hmmm, that was pretty stupid. Take a step back and look if you can.
Good luck and get on with it.
2006-11-05 03:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by gbdelta1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen to me and after time I got over it and found someone that truely love me. You should be glad u found out what she was really like before u invested alot more time or even married her. This is part of life and things will get better.I believe this happens for a reason and I know u can't see it now but this is a good thing. You found out what type of person she really is.Now u need to take care of yourself.You should love yourself first and want to get up in the morning for u. Start finding things to do that make u happy. Like sports,reading, on the pc like now. You deserve to be happy and u should learn to enjoy being by yourself. There will be another person for u. Plus when u find her you'll look back and think why did I even waste my time with her the one that hurt u. Keep yourself busy and time will help u heal.Good luck
2006-11-05 03:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you help yourself. Prayer is good, it's probably the best.
Friends and family can only hold your hand. They can't fill the hole that has been left.
Not all people were ment to be together for the long haul. It can feel to us, that there is or will be no tomorrow, but there is.
IF we didn't experience up's and downs, we would be a very weak society as a whole. These lifes paths we set out to take, help us grow, learn and prospure. Without them, we would be mutants.
A broken heart can be mended. You just have to give yourself time. It can't work over night.
Get yourself involved in hobbies, clubs, sports. Start dateing right away. ( but keep your heartache to yourself on the dates). Nothing worse than boreing a date about an ex!!
LIFE goes on.
2006-11-05 03:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broken hearts do mend. It just takes time. Though it probably sounds trite, there are still lots of fish in the sea.
It is strange but you probably said something totally casually that really struck a sore spot in her for her to strike back so viciously. And whatever it was, it is a problem she has to deal with. But, understand that you are better off out of this relationship. When we give our trust to a person, and give them our deepest darkest secrets, we are in fact giving them the heaviest ammunition they could ever fire back at us. We do this because we feel that there should be no secrets between life partners. We leave ourselves vulnerable. We show our soft underbellies, and unfortunately, sometimes we end up eviserated. Totally disemboweled.
It hurts to our souls. But remember, "this too shall pass". You will be a little wiser, and a little bit more gun shy, but eventually you will be ready to test the water again. Just don't let this experience make you bitter or too shy, or you will miss it when Ms. Right does come along. And I assure you, she IS out there.
Some things are just not meant to be. Just be glad that here wasn't a marriage and children to complicate the issue. There is no blame. It was not your fault or her fault. And, beating yourself up over what-ifs and what might have beens is counter productive. It is over, you have another life lesson under your belt, and when you are ready again, you will be a little bit wiser.
2006-11-05 03:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask how someone you loved so deeply could betray you, it's because she didn't love you. a person who can give and love so freely will find another person to share it with and that is reason enough to go on. Do some volunteer work, it will keep you busy and inspire you to keep on going. The real loser is the woman who couldn't see what she had and has lost. Soon you will meet someone new, just take it slow and be sure she feels the same way.
2006-11-05 03:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by notaxpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shop for quality next time. Kinda like buying a worn out second hand car. Now go out there and find a brand new 2007 model with all the bells and whistles. Stay away from the bargin basement. Tomorrow has a promise of hope ,tomorrow's story is unwritten,enjoy today because one of the tomorrows will be the last.
2006-11-05 03:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by super stud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To put all of your happiness in one person is a huge mistake. You say she was your reason for getting out of bed in the morning, that sure does put a big responsibility on her to make sure that your happy. What you need to do is find happiness in yourself. No one person will EVER be able to make you happy. Only YOU can make you happy. Other people can be a part of your life and you can love them or leave them, but please don't depend on them for your happiness. I know losing a relationship you have put your heart and soul into is devistating, but use this time to get to know you. Find out some things that you like to do. Join a team of some sort, bowling, poker group, something fun. People can be happy without a partner. Time will heal your heart.
2006-11-05 03:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls usally don't become really cruel for nothing, I know what i'm talking about, I really can be mean and cruel to the one i love the most. This is like a little protection a thing I do when I feel like i'm gonna be hurt, If you really love her, go talk to her, and try to make this work tell her sorry for everything even if you think it wasn't your fault, and tell her that you really love he, and then try to know what was wrong and why she started acted like that. I'm sure she had a reason, and she does love you too! don't give up. "Romans 8:28" God never but something in your life that you wouldn't be able to bear and also he gives you strengh to make it through.
2006-11-05 03:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋