My boyfriend went out last night to celebrate his birthday. He wouldnt let me go with him (which is nothing new, im never aloud!!) he refused to take his phone when i asked him to as we have 2 young children and i would like to know i can get hold of him if i need to. He come home 4 o'clock this morning and when he got up he has got bruises on his head and has told me he got punched but is getting mad at me when i ask why. I think he was coming on to a girl with a boyfriend or something like that, it wouldnt be the first time!
What do u think?
2006-11-05 02:35:10 · 20 answers · asked by sarah_652468 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wants his cake and eat it too. He went out to celebrate his birthday instead of spending with you. Time to say see ya. He is not ready for the responsibility of a relationship.
2006-11-05 02:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you hit the nail on the head! He sounds very immature and anyone who gets mad for having to explain something is usually hiding something. I say, make plans to go out with your girlfriends and leave him home with the children. Come home at 4 o'clock in the morning with messed up hair and offer no explanation as to why. If he gets mad, make your point and if it doesn't help, dump him now! And remember....don't take your cell phone.
2006-11-05 10:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You clearly cant deduce cheating on you from any of this. But I would definitely suggest you readjust your relationship. He has way too much control over you if he can go out and you cannot.
He cares about his own welfare as opposed to swallowing the pill that he has made a manly decision to have children and a family. Clearly he is not ready for that, because part of that is cutting out most, not all, of the party life. Not taking the phone is a sign of that as well.
In my experience, my ex-wife was going to parties alone, not checking in with how things were, and making me worry about her driving home drunk. Oh, and by the way, I found out later she was cheating on me. Doesnt mean your man is, but alcohol, and parties alone, etc are definitely a set for disaster.
I hope you find someone better for you or work things out if you wish!
2006-11-05 10:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by ☺ PeeJ ☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He drank to much jager and pissed someone off and got punched, probably no girl involved. But its some bullshit you cant spend the day with him on his birthday and its crap he doesnt care about his kids to not take a phone. Get rid of his *** and get child support your better off. And it wouldnt be the first time is sad too.. dump him now before he beats you or something bad.. it just sounds all bad
2006-11-05 10:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by Wretched 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that a bruise on his head is not grounds for cheating it does in fact justify him saying that he got punched. i think he got mad at you cause he got beat up and you asked him what happened and all it did was reiterate the fact that he got beat up. i think that him going out without a phone is wrong and i think that him going out without you is wrong. and i think that him coming home at 4 am when bars close a 2 is wrong. does that mean hes having an affair? i dont know ask him then tell him im going out tommorrow you got the kids and come home at 4 am see how he likes it.
2006-11-05 10:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have had 2 children in an unstable relationship. The question is, are you happy living like this and is this the best for the children. I suggest both you and the boyfriend should discuss your relationship focusing on what is best for the family.
I wish you the best.
2006-11-05 10:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by david42 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should have dumped this idiot long ago.You have two children,aren't married and he goes out on his birthday without you.You shouldn't need to ask what to do after reading your own question..And of course he's getting mad when you keep asking about the bruises,he got his @ss kicked last night.Doesn't really matter why,every time you ask him about it he has to realize he's a punk.
2006-11-05 10:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to believe, and even if you have given him the benefit of the doubt, he could very well be. I have 4 boys and I know when after 14 years of depending on someone, I would rather live alone than miserable! Going through life, questioning his every move pushes him away. Without trust, because really, without trust, you have nothing.
2006-11-05 10:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by jmmcken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to jump to conclusions but it definilty sounds like somethin is wrong exspecially if he doesn't even let you go with him...mabi you should start going out without him you need to definilty have a talk with him and see if he is having a problem with you or the relationship or sumthin
2006-11-05 10:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by becka b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about it. As you said he won't tell you anything, but you need to think about your kids, if he comes home bruised up then what will your kids think. As for the cheating I think there has to be SOMETHING he is hiding. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-11-05 10:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by JOGOO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋