When I was a little younger I started going out with this guy, i really liked him and after some months, he told me that it would be better for us to stay friends. then some months after he came back to me and told me that he liked me alot. after a months broke up again. And know that I have a boyfriend that I really love and everything, he just decided to pop up in my life again. Why does he always has to do that? and why am I just obessed about him?
2006-11-05 02:25:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know what you are going through. It took a while for me to accept that I "liked" the person I was when we were apart far better than the person I was when we were together. I got really tired of being his safety net. He expected me to catch him each time he fell, and when he was on his feet again, he would go skirt chasing again. They don't change, so we have to.
You end up being "on hold" with your own life, because he keeps showing up because he is in a needy spell. I know that there is just something about him that sets the nerves to tingling. But, he is bad news. You will just have to be as firm with yourself as you have to be with him. He will have to find some other woman to use as a safety net. You deserve better.
2006-11-05 02:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the real question is, why do you let him come back? If you really loved your boyfriend this ex should not even be on your radar screen. He shouldn't matter. Repeat after me: "When it's over, it's over." Say it again. Once more. Now keep repeating it. A hundred times a day. A thousand times a day. When it's over, it's over. Done. Finished. Caput. Move on. Evolve. Grow. Mature. Be always in control. Never lose that control. (I'll give you a little insight: this ex is coming back around for a roll in the hay. You're in his rotation. He's got several chicks on the string. You're just one of maybe 6 or 10. How do I know? 'Cause I'm a guy...Trust me on this one...)
2006-11-05 02:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm...it seems like he dosent really want you...but he dosent want you to be with anyone else either...he likes the control he has over your life, where he can just come and go as he pleases, you have to put a stop to this, because if you don't he will absolutely mess with your head, and then when he does go for good you will be so wrapped up in him you will accept any kind of abuse from him....don't let things get to that stage for your own sake...let this go, and make your life with your new boyfriend, don't let this jerk get in the way of things, he's not worth it.
2006-11-05 02:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's coming back because he didn't find anybody as good as you or didn't find someone else in general, guys are like that, they cling to the last person they had and keep coming back to them especially when things aren't going that well in their lives. Think about it, he's going through a bad time so he thinks back to the best time he had or the last time he was happy and maybe it was when he was with you. So he feels like he wants to sort of relive those memories and thus wants to come back to you.
2006-11-05 02:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reading a book called Stop Walking on Eggshells This book deals with unstable relationships and why we keep getting hooked into them. There are many "psych" books on the market but this one is phenomenal and easy to read. Lots ov valuable information you can gain about yourself and others.
2006-11-05 02:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u like him 2!!!! sometimes its like that and u jus have 2 decide what u want.... think about ur future...if its gonna last long with either of them. you'l be aiight....OR what u could do is play mind games with him and let him no how it feels then if u like him..tell im
2006-11-05 02:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by Heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mabi he keeps coming back b/c he deosn't know wut he wants yet so he keeps changing hes mind you should ask youself do you love your b/f now or your x coming back and be with the one you love it doesn't seem good tho to go with your current x b/c you don't want to take the chance of him breaking up with you again
2006-11-05 02:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by becka b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just answer this question:''why are girls more attracted by bad boys?''
2006-11-05 02:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Deea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋