My dad is very very sick, and I can't bare to see him like that. And there is no cure... no medicne, no injection no nothing. And my mom has MS. And I can't take it anymore. I'm only 13 years old. I'm still a kid and I am waching my parents slowly suffer!!!! I feel like I want to cut my wrists or something!!!!! I am going crazy! Ican't stop crying!!! I feel like if I hurt my self all that pain goes away!!!!!!!! Please help me...
2006-11-05 01:58:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Candace, you are in a very sad position. Of course you can't stop crying. It is very hard to watch a loved one suffer and slip away .....
As far as your dad goes I'm sure he's done what he can for his conditon, dear. Treasure the time you have with him. Show him that you are going to be ok. Give him a girl he can be proud of. Tell him you love him. You are learning not to take the ones you love for granted. Every day is a gift.
You need to be able to tell someone what you are going through. See if the school counselor won't see you a couple of times a week. Someone where you can go and honestly say how you feel and not be judged. Maybe the counselor can find a way to help.
Hon, when you leave for school in the morning you have to try to leave the grief outside. Try to focus on school. Think about going for academic support from 3 to 4 and get the homework done so when you are home you are addressing issues at home.
Do seek out a trusted adult to speak with. Adults would have trouble dealing with what you have on your plate. Let someone help you.
2006-11-05 02:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not do anything to yourself...you will only cause your parents more pain. Life is never easy, we all have to deal with some sort of things that make us a stronger person in the end. By showing your love and affection and just by helping in any way that you can is showing the world that you are a mature person, you know a lot of people would just run away from this. I think you are a very brave mature and responsible adult and only hope that when I get sick and in need of help that my children will be like you...it's a big responsibility, and if you feel you need to get away from it then go out for a while talk to someone close to you, a teacher, counselor, neighbor, or for that matter anyone that has a kind heart will listen to you and how you are feeling. Just remember that nothing will be solved by hurting yourself. I'm truly sorry your parents are so ill, but I'm sure they feel blessed having you with them, take care of yourself and God Speed.
2006-11-05 10:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this must be offal for you.and I'm really sorry. but you know that cutting your self is not the answer. that will only cause more pain. as hard as all of this is, you need to know that this will make you a stronger person when you get older. and trust me both of your parents want this for you. more than anything. i to had to watch my father suffer, also my mother. and it has made me a stronger wiser person. although it was very hard at the time. i think that you should contact a support group. believe it or not there are alto of kids out there going through the same thing you are.and it help to talk to people your own age.that understand where you coming from. good luck dear.
2006-11-05 12:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if you love your parents don't do anything like hurting yourself as this would only hurt them all the more even in their poor state. It is a horrific situation you find your self in especially at such a young age. It looks like you will have to put your life on hold for a spell and do what you can to make your folks as comfortable as you can.Are there no other relatives available? In such a difficult situation one thinks that it will never end, it does, these days will come to pass and you will be looking back upon them. Knowing you were there for your parents in their time of need will give you peace in later years not regrets that you should have done more. I would just encourage you and perhaps their is some agencies available to provide help in your area. Last but not least ask God to intervene and help you with your situation, He loves you and tells us to cast all our cares upon Him. Don't give up !
2006-11-05 10:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by Steiner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, never never hurt yourself, because it will never ever chaneg a thing, keep that in mind. I had problems once in my life and I started cuting myself everywhere now i have scarvs and I keep trying to hide them because when i see them it reminds me of what happened. There is nothing you can do really, but Be strong support your parents, I know it might be really hard to bear that when you are so young.
Honestly The only person that would help you to feel better would deffinitly be God, He is good, and maybe you think that right now he isn't being so kind to you, remember that God is perfect and sickness doesn't come from him. Now you might not like what I just said, but it's the truth. I will be truly praying about you and your family. May God work through all of this in your life and that everything gets better. Be strong, never give up, It worth fighing!
2006-11-05 10:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, that s not the way out! Dont be a coward and run from life.... it could be worse believe me.
By hurting yourself, you will make your parents suffer more girl. Talk to other family and close friends, confide in them. See a counsellor if needed, anything to get the emotions out.
Such is life and this phase will surely pass. Just hang on!
2006-11-05 10:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by freshlimesoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find an adult that you can confide in and talk to. That is a lot for a 13 year old girl to handle. Are there school counselors you can go to? The best thing to do is find someone to talk to so you aren't holding this all in to yourself. How about your grandparents? Or aunts and uncles. You just need someone that can take you under their wing and give you what you need right now. My heart goes out to you. I'll keep you in my prayers sweetie.
2006-11-05 10:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by jamie_0778 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh im sorry the pain hurts i know but the best thing you can do is stick by thier side becuase they need your support now mor than ever ims sure of that dont hurt yourslf becase that will hurt even more. Go gert them some flowwers or atedy bear to comfert them but most of all stay by thier side good luck and God Bless!!
2006-11-05 10:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by Rhiannon. Stay[[+]] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T CUT YOUR WRISTS, your life i much more important than that to you and to your parents. they need you to be strong and help them, however you can. Go or call your hospital and ask for someone for help in the mental health department. you do not have anything mentally wrong with you. they will help you to understand what is happening and help you thru your feelings.
2006-11-05 10:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no the pain won't go away, it will still be there. It is really tough for you in this situation and your only 13, life is unfair sometimes. hang in there your parents really need your support and i know you need someone to support you talk to your friends, or someone you can trust.
2006-11-05 10:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by slai171 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋