I dumped my girl 7 months ago coz i found out that she had cheated on me, we had been together for 3 years. I decided her to give a a second chance coz i love her i think that everyone deserves a second chance. However she had become very close to a male friend at the time when we split, so when we got back i told her that she had to be careful not to sway like she did before. One day she went to london for church and came back that same day i had a feeling she met up this guy when she went there, i confronted her and she denied and said that i needed to trust her. i later discovered that they did meet and she confessed that met up, but only didnt tell me coz she didnt want me to freak out bla bla.
The thing is how can she lie to me and simply accept me to forgive her just like that, to me she hasnt changed. I told her that its over coz i dont trust her anymore, she called her relatives who are now fuming and say i wasted her time. Did i do the wrong thing by dumpin her again?
2006-11-05 01:53:39 · 28 answers · asked by frankie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They say YOU wasted HER time??? LMAO
Why do you even CARE what her relatives say or think?? It was SHE who screwed you over!! If you give her another chance, perhaps you ARE as dumb as they think you are.
2006-11-05 01:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you did the right thing by dumping her again. I wish people would waste less of their time giving second chances to people. They never seem to work out. You did the right thing. Without trust, there is no relationship. As the guilty party, she had the obligation to be trustworthy going forward, and she seems to be unable to be so.
Sorry for you, but I think you'll find happiness elsewhere. Good luck
2006-11-05 01:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Solid move!!! Trust is a huge part of the relationship. I can not stand a liar. If it is wrong, admit it and we can work through it. But to lie and find out later!! It is a lesson my friend. Move on and find someone new. Make this girl realize what a mistake she made. Who cares what her family thinks. The relationship was between you and her. Without a doubt, she did not tell then everything.
2006-11-05 02:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by MasterGR 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made the correct decision.
She knew that there was trust issues between you two and still not only met up with the guy, but then tried to cover it up. You didn't waste her time, she wasted yours. If she really wanted the relationship to work, she would have been honest with you in the first place. No, I take that back, if she wanted the relationship to work, she would have never met up with the guy.
2006-11-05 02:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No thats her problem not urs!!!! She just needs to deal with the fact that she probably isnt evr going to be a good wife or girlfriend because she willl probably be with another guy... once again CHEATING!!!!! So just ignore her and move on u know!! ur not wasting her time she is wasting yours by first of all chaeting on you and second making u feel bad and never forget it!!! So just let it go and move on or ur affecting urself and for her if she keeps on cheating and stuff then she is just wasting her time not our problem, right?!
2006-11-05 02:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by katelen59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 07:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even thought i am only 14 i know what its like to be cheated on my boyfreind had another 4 girlfreinds when i met him. But i think you did good for yourself and if another girl cheats on you she is simply not worth getting back together is it? She might do it again but i dont get why did you go back with her you could have just found another lassie and made her jealous and now you dumped her again her family is blaming you i dont think thats right but you did gd for dumping her gd on you.:P
2006-11-05 02:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by cfc_amanda_cfc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you've said here, you did the right thing. It's impossible and unfair to make a certain judgement about it without hearing her version of the events, but having experienced something similar myself, I'd say you were right to do it. Hopefully she'll learn from this and not do it again.
2006-11-05 02:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Steve M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pat your back for me: Well DONE!! Don't even think for one second that you did the wrong thing...you did right!! She's some doll, your too good...find another chick who would respect you for who and what you are!! You Deserve some RESPECT!! Ps: Don't be a big softie!! Stand up to yourself!! Good Luck!!
2006-11-05 02:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Logically you were correct to allow a second chance. As long as you were clear on what parameters were not to be breached from that point forward. Given that, then you are right to end it after she was not honest with you for a second time.
2006-11-05 02:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by Shebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she shows any signs of wanting to be friends again do but keep your distance. i went out wit a guy 3 times, i and he was faithful but i did all the dumping, i know im an idiot but now weare really good friends and ive fallen for him again (he doesnt know though). give more chances but keep your distance between chances and see what she gets up to if theres any likleyhood of her being unfaithful. if she doesnt want you for friendship or more then leave her, why give more chances if she doesnt want them
2006-11-05 03:41:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋