could you help me it's about my friend????????????

Question

OK my friend is so nice and every one loves her. Her name is LEXY ,too. It's sort of crazy but anyways she just broke up with her boyfriend and she is really depressed. Then a few days ago i found out is has been cuting herself. Now i kno that it is not my problem but we are like sisters. So i am very worried i tryed to talk to her and she said if u tell anyone she will never ever talk to me again. Her boyfriend though talked to me and said he wants to get back together. I told my friend that and she just said he does not love me so why should i go back out with him (we are only 13 and 14). She is crazy. What should i do? What should I say??

Answer 1

First tell her she needs to quit beating herself up - i.e. the cutting, and any other self-destructive behavior. She (and you) need, somehow, to recognize that you are way too young for serious relationships with the other sex, but I understand that is soooo hard to recognize as a teen.

As for boyfriend, he needs to talk to her about the cutting. That is her way to punish herself and him, and hard as it may be, he will have to lay down the law about where that behavior rates with him. Perhaps some tough love is in order.

Please please please find an adult you trust...someone from church or a teacher or counselor from school, and let them help you both through this situation.

Thank goodness she has a caring friend like you!!! Good luck in helping your friend, and God bless you both!

Answer 2

Slap her in the face what is wrong with her she is so young I wish I could be 13 or 14 again that is so stupid of her tell her there is so much more in life that she has to experience there are alot of boys in this world enough for everybody tell her to openher eyes and to stop with that stupidness she is doing she to young to be depressed about a boy when I was 13 and 14 I lifed my live like there was no tommorrow I am 21 now not that old myself I went throught alot my heart was broken shattered in pieces time after time I got up and go on that is what you do show tell her to show the boy that she can go on without him stand up like a girl and life your life as a brave girl not a coward

Answer 3

Tell her to think things through, don't think you can't handle this! Who knows if this guy is worth all of this stuff. Make sure she doesn't do anything stupid, and maybe you should tell her family that she is doing that, she might get upset that you told, but its better for a friend to be mad at you than to have no friend at all! If you love her like a sister don't worry about her not talking to you because shes not gonna be mad at you after she sees what can happen if she actually hurts herself and puts herself in a bad health situation.

Answer 4

You and your friend are at a very difficult age in your lives, filled with hormonal surges, chemical imbalances, feelings of immortality, and a pervasive stupidity not borne of any intellectual deficiency but rather by the fact that your ability to focus on the risks and potential consequences of your acts is still in the process of development and is still far from being sufficiently developed because you haven't yet accumulated enough actual life experience. It's a wonder that enough of you survive to reach adulthood and perpetuate the human race. Truth to tell, it's a wonder that I survived it.

After you've done what's necessary to save your friend's life, you would be doing her a real solid if you could also help her to find a reason to go on living.

Try passing along to her this bit of Kung Fu Wisdom that has also inspired Abraham Lincoln, Nathaniel Hawthorne, George Harrison, and countless others:

Student: Master, tell me something that will make me laugh if I am crying?

Master: Just contemplate the meaning of these words: "And this too shall pass."

Student: Oh, I see, Master. Well, Master, what will make me cry if I am laughing?

Master: Just contemplate the meaning of these words: "And this too shall pass."
When you truly begin to understand, you will be enlightened, and enlightenment does not pass.

Abraham Lincoln's address to the Wisconsin State Agricultural Society in 1859 included these words:

"It is said an Eastern monarch once charged his wise men to invent him a sentence to be ever in view and appropriate in all times and situations. They presented him the words, 'And this, too, shall pass away.' How much it expresses! How chastening in the hour of pride! How consoling in the depths of affliction."

A year later, Nathaniel Hawthorne included the same thought in his book, "The Marble Faun," with these words:

"The greatest mortal consolation, WHICH WE DERIVE FROM THE TRANSITORINESS OF ALL THINGS -- from the right of saying, in every conjecture, 'This, too, wil pass away.'"
[emphasis added]

Answer 5

You really need to get a adult involved in the situation because your friend needs help. She is not crazy but just needs some guidance in life. Would you rather not say anything and something bad happens to her or would you rather speak out and possibly save her life? O, and the boyfriend tell her she will have plenty in life so what he's gone

Answer 6

If you really care about your friend, you tell a responsible adult right away that she is cutting. She needs some help right now. She may be mad at you but that's better than loosing her altogether isn't it. She's depressed and cutting and probably not feeling good about herself. Not a good combination especially in a teenager. Don't waste time asking questions here go tell someone right now. She's cutting because she's hurting really bad inside and is trying to ease the pain she feels inside by causing herself physical pain. Please tell someone right now!!!!!

Answer 7

i would try supporting her however you can at this time she really needs a good friend.talk to her and try to find out why she is cutting herself over this breakup,try not to be judgemental of her through these tring times she is going through,but if you feel she may be contemplating suicide pls contact an adult to get her the help she needs.as for the boyfriend wanting back with her i'd say that at this time lexie needs to find herself and become more emotionally secure and self confident before resuming dating with anybody

Answer 8

Sounds like she needs serious help.. If she is honestly cutting herself you need to tell someone even if she says, "I will never talk to you again." She will appreciate it later. She is too young for this.

Answer 9

You are to tell your own mom this very instant. Your mom will talk to her mom. It is imperative that she gets help as she may need medication that can help her psychologically. Forget the fact that she said she will not be your friend....she still will. Maybe not right at the get go...but she will. TRUST ME ON THAT. Tell your mom.

Answer 10

If he doesnt love her so she will not feel satisfied going out or being with this guy ,after all if he broke her heart she needs time to forget so i think you'd better not to insist her getting back to him.