friends, but I still am embarressed and uncomfortable..how do I control my embarresment..When I was with my friends who did not yet know i smoked, when they went for a cigarette, I pulled mine out of my purse, and asked "can I join you"? They were shocked and I turned 1000 shades of red...When I was with my boyfriend later than night...I said to him "hon, could you get my keys out of my purse", Of course when he did he found my pack of cigarettes like I wanted him to...he flipped...but I smoked one in front of him later...but, again was embarressed...what should I say to these people ...need help...still need to break the ice with my parents..don't know how to do it.....no lectures please.
2006-11-05 01:37:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Come out of the closet with smoking? This is'nt the 1920's woman can smoke. Gawd, I'd hate to see you get embarrassed over a fart.
2006-11-05 01:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by J S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are feeling embarrassed, good. No one here is going to make you more comfortable about coming out. Most of us here know you made a dumb decision. And so do you. Otherwise you would not be embarrassed about it.
The health problems caused are a LOT more important than any embarrassment you feel about coming out. And it will never be easier to quit than it is right now. The longer you smoke, the harder it is.
So you may want to look at why you have such a great need to draw attention to yourself, because that is the real issue here. They freaked, he flipped, & you are delighted at their reactoins. And you really get a chuckle thinking about the reaction you will get from your parents. How do I know this? That's the reasons I started. So peers would notice me & to rebel against all authority & maybe the girls will think I am KOOL because "they sure don't now".
I know you said no lectures. But I gotta try. I have emphysema & I'm making it worse because I can't seem to quit. I really , really wish you the best, & to make the best decision for yourself. .
2006-11-05 02:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a nurse and former smoker I can only tell you that you need to quit and now. You began smoking to "be one of the crowd". You don't need to kill yourself slowly over a couple of decades just to be accepted by your friends. I treat patients every day who are dying of cancer and emphysema from smoking. It is no laughing matter. Your friends were surprised because they know they are responsible for your starting this horrible habit. Most smokers would like to quit but because of the addictive quality of nicotine find it nearly impossible to do so. Put the cigarettes down and stop trying to be "like everyone else". Learn to dance to the beat of a different drum and not follow the crowd into destruction.
2006-11-05 01:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by Lola 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 20:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by marianna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The embarrassment thing is kinda childish. I can tell ya this much,only six months,stop now before it becomes harder to do so. I have smoked most of my adult life and wish I had never started. Stopping is not an easy thing to do have tried several times.
2006-11-05 03:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask your lungs this question first? Who cares what others think about your bad choices? You are the only one to feel the consequences so there you have it; ask yourself why are you doing a bad thing to your body... The only things we can truly control in our life is what we say and what we eat or put into our mouths... I suggest a little more control...
2006-11-05 05:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are embarrassed surely you know that smoking is bad. Just quit and you will have no further embarrassment.
2006-11-06 16:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smoking is very unlady like but if you like it, I'm happy for ya. Hey after all it is your lungs. So tell them to kiss your ***!!!!
2006-11-05 01:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by chinesefoodruleZ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your an adult then its your choice and right to destroy your lungs, so what they think is irrelevant.
2006-11-05 02:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by jupitor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋