i am 55 years old and i have /has a 45 gf for three years during which time we broke up for 1 year because she was dong crack last june she was riding in a car not driving and was in a head on colloision which almost took her life 7 weeks in hosp 5 in intensive care i visited her in hosp and my old feelings for her came back and we got together shortly after her dicharge from hosp
she was very open in letting me know she slept with many different people but mostly one who was her dealer and 13 years younger then she i accepted that the actions were crackhead snd not the woman i knew clean and sober
i asked her to marry me went to visit her family who seemed pleased and now have found she tricked her daughter into taking her to meet ex dealer and lover at a gas staion hugs but no kisses i am told by daughter next day she asks me to take her to pick up new set of glasses and pulls same stunt on me meets craack /lover for 5 mintues at gas station found out about first meeting afte
2006-11-05 01:28:31 · 4 answers · asked by bill s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im sorry about the situation your in but the truth is crack is very addictive..sometimes it just dosent want to let go,, have you considered she may not know how to break the habit? ask her why and see if she may cobsider rehab
2006-11-05 01:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this, I think she has chose crack over you. I'm not saying that she doesn't love you, because I think she does, she just love crack more. She couldn't live without crack, but she risk losing you by pulling this stunt on you.
She won't change soon, and if she wants to be clean, she got A LOT of cleaning to do, and she doesn't look like she wants to.
Don't rush into marriage, you should think hard if this kind of live is what you want (addiction,lies, deceit, broken promises, crack dealer, ex lover, money spent on cracks, health issue,etc).
If you still want her after you think hard, help her get clean, get help from profesionals. Marriage should be the last on you mind now. Good luck.
2006-11-05 10:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by Akai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like someone is not going to stay clean and sober for long..
once an addict, always an addict..
an addict can only stay sober if they completly cut out the people in their life that are also addicts..
there has to be a reason she is keeping him in her life and sneaking away to see him, your best bet is to give her an ultimatum..either you or her old ways..
and be very leary, addicts are sneaky when they feel they need to get that certain vice in their lives..
you might want to wait and re think the marriage idea for at least a year or more untill you can be positive she is no longer a using "crackhead"..
I have seen many people go through similiar situations such as the one you are dealing with right now, and the truth is, most do not turn out in a favorable way...
2006-11-05 09:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget her. not worth the heartbreak. drugs are a red flags.
2006-11-05 09:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by Skye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋