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im 25 and hes 41 but my famly dont like him should i still see him?

2006-11-05 01:15:50 · 25 answers · asked by jesse 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

yes i do love he very much

2006-11-05 01:24:17 · update #1

no we have a lot fun together

2006-11-05 01:26:25 · update #2

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No age should not matter- the only thing that matters is that your happy with him

2006-11-05 01:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by ღ|l°Coltrane°l|ღ 4 · 0 0

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2006-11-05 09:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

I could answer the question because I am an older guy and can see his view on the matter. Age matters, because he has experienced a different world than you and so you have less in common with him.

The family does not like him becuase they understand that relationships are hard on couples and then adding this difference makes things even tougher.

You have more in common with guys that are within seven years of your age, so find somebody no older than 32. If you are able to not see him romatically...don't.

It would be best to "cut the strings" now before it gets to complicated and you have invested a lot of time and energy into a relationship that will end up going nowhere.

These are your best years, use them wisely because you will NEVER get them back. That is what your family knows, they love you and are the only ones that care about you more than anyone...they do not want to see you get hurt.

And you will...once you realize that you have invested too much time and energy into something that will not work out.

Think about it...

*Nothing in common with his friends and family.
*People wondering why you are holding hands with your dad.
*When around his friends, not being able to really relate to them.
*Thanksgiving dinners at both places, probably not welcomed at yours,(so you would be giving it up along with...
Christmas.....and the joys of the seasons.

Then if you marry him...

He will not have the energy to keep up with you later...and if you have children, they will be embarrassed at how old their father is compared to their friends fathers.

As he ages....you will have three old people to take care of. Your parents and him. As men age they become more mean and have less patience with children.

Save yourself now....listen to your family. They know...
The probability of having a great relationsihip with him is pretty low, you could just be a nice distraction for him, a "toy".

You deserve more. Love yourself first...by finding somebody closer to your own age...let him go.

2006-11-05 09:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by Dave 6 · 0 0

Obviously, you are old enough to decide.

First you need the real facts.

Is he with you for sex or because he loves you.

Are you with him because you really love him or he makes you feel safe/secure etc.

can you live without mom and dad in your life?

Do your parents not like him because of his age or is there something more to it?

Ok that being said..... I am nearly 50. My last GF was 23. She was fun and gorgeous and smart.... seemingly perfect. But I quicly realized we were so different. Things I experienced, she read about in history books. She was hinting at us getting married. I actually wanted to marry her too. But then one day the guilt came into play. Is it fair that I'll be on social security and she'll still be in her 30's? Was it fair for her to wake up each morning with an old man laying next to her? If she got pregnant, would it be fair to the kids to have a dad so old... and what about my health issues. Sure I'm ok now, but in just a few short years I could have prostate cancer or open eart issues....

I decided to set her free....she creid and was really hurt. I was also hurt...but I knew I did the right thing. I recently found out from a mutual friend that she is finally seeing a very nice guy whos about 29 and they are a perfect match.....

Think about it....don't just go with the heart...you have to use your mind for this one!

2006-11-05 09:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1 0

Hello

I don't think age matters at all. As long as you get along, have things in common and love each other what does it matter. My husband is 15 yrs younger than I am and we have been together for 7yrs now. My family was against it also, but if I had of listened to them I would have missed out on the love of my life. So If he's a good person and you love him go for it!!!!

2006-11-05 09:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by paulamcneil1223 3 · 0 0

It's all up to you. But I'm in a relationship with a man I'm 21 and I was told he was 42.. Well I just found out he's 52.. So I just don't know what to tell you. I wont to say age is just a number but since I heard that last night I'm freaking. Ur young just as I am. Were in our prime. This is where I life starts out and me my "old man' is gone. **** these lil games. Gotta live life. But you gotta get burned before you know better I guess. Like me...

2006-11-05 10:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly 2 · 0 0

Damn. hey Im 37.--if doesnt work out for ya, come see me....

(this is an attempt at a humorous version of an answer)

comment for westfield down there- kudos to you for being able to pull a woman THAT much younger than you- but MORESO for having the sense and heart to know better and let her go....

2006-11-05 09:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by douglas w 3 · 0 0

Your old enough to make that choice. It is ok to date the old guy if you are both attracted to each other, just date dont close off your friends guys or girls and your family. Sometimes guys dont machure as early in age as females do, so his behavior that attracted you to him may be the equivalent of what you thought dating someone your age would be like, just have fun.

2006-11-05 09:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by ThunderCats 3 · 0 0

no it doesnt. if your over 18 the age doesnt matter the law way. but im 14 and im going out with a 16 year old. because hes mature unlike the guys in my grade. age honestly doesnt matter. its all about the love.

2006-11-05 09:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by Skye 5 · 0 0

Yeah, and leave your family where they are. They don't have to see him and he's probably not big on seeing them, since they don't like him. Once you pass the age of consent, it's a free-for-all...age only plays a part if it's ridiculous, like 18 and 75.

2006-11-05 09:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1 0

your 25, your an adult. you can make up your own mind. if your family doesnt like him and they give you a valid reason as to why, then yea, take that into conisderation. but if they dont like him just because of the age difference, thats bull....

2006-11-05 09:18:45 · answer #11 · answered by cr4is2py0 3 · 0 0

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