It is said that love and truth walk hand in hand. But if the need is great enough, can we learn to love a lie
2006-11-05 00:59:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I COULDN'T BECAUSE, IF I TRIED TO LOVE A LIE I WOULD ONLY BE KIDDING MYSELF, IT WOULD ONLY OPEN A DOOR FOR ANOTHER LIE AND THEN ANOTHER, I LOVE MYSELF TODAY TO LIVE A LIE, I RATHER LIVE LIFE WITH LOVE AND THE TRUTH SO THAT I MAY WALK HAND IN HAND IN HAPPINESS, THEN TO LIVE A LIE, TRCKY QUESTION, YOU ALMOST HAD ME.
2006-11-05 01:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by smokin_mini 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how it can be done. #1 if your like me you hate to be lied to. So that being said I'll never learn to love a lie. And I have a perfect situation for this. I've just found out last night that for a year and a half my bf whom I'm with has been lieing to me about his age. He has been telling me he is 11 yrs younger than he really is. That's bs right there. How can you learn to love a lie like that. Makes you sit back and wonder what else has this person lied about. So no you can't learn to love a lie. No need is great enough to deprive your self of someone who will not lie to you. And they are out there some damn where......
2006-11-05 10:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Walking hand in hand is a great intimacy. Having a NEED should in itself raise the first red flag.
I don't know if I can learn to love the lie. Maybe love the liar.
The timing of this question amazingly intriguing.
Last two months I have begun to ask the question if I can love the one who is lying.
The most common thought returns as: How will I ever believe anything in the future the liar says to me.
Having found out the first deception, has confessed to it. I now look back to the beginning of our relationship and have questioned everything and see the future full of the same questions.
If you resign yourself to love the lie / liar will you truly be happy and when that special someone who DOES NOT lie comes along will they ever be trusted either through no fault of their own.
Did that make any sense???
2006-11-05 09:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by LIVIN INXS 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Telling the truth is the best thing you can every do in a relationship.Lies always come back to bite you in the *** and you never know how the other person will react.So i would say no we can not learn to love a lie because in the end if we do it will only harm us
2006-11-05 10:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by wblueyesinvt35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a thinker. Making me think this early in the morning and with a hangover no less. However, I will make an attempt!
First, I think the real question is, what is truth? Truth is merely perception. It is an individual perception of what one believes to be accurate and the same "truth" can vary widely from person to person. The truth for one can easily be a lie for another.
When you feel something is a lie, but you choose to love it regardless, you have chosen that your truth is not as important to you as happiness, whether it be your own or anothers.
For example, there is "brutal" truth. When a woman asks a man if she looks fat in that dress and he says no, even though he might truthfully think she does, he is telling her a lie. But it is a lie that makes them both happy. He loves her even though she looks fat in that dress, and it doesn't matter to him that she does. It is her happiness which is more important to him. So does he love a lie? In theory, yes, he does.
Some might say truth matters above all else, but when you consider that the truth varies in perception from individual to individual, you can also theorize that there really is no concrete, bottom-line truth. You can live in your "truth" and be miserable and make those around you miserable, or you can choose to live in happiness and make others happy.
Now, I'm all for honesty and I feel that honesty is an important attribute to a happy life, but there is honesty with compassion and honesty with good judgment. Honesty is important when dishonesty would hurt someone or break the law, but when it comes to valuing the feelings of another person, compassion is far more important.
So...that's my thinking for today! :)
2006-11-05 09:29:49 · answer #5 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Why not... if you love someone truly enough and one simple truth can make or break it, then tell a lie. Somethings are better not said, you know the saying, ignorance is bliss. But also make sure that you never do the same thing that you lied about ever again.
2006-11-05 09:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by freshlimesoda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be a really bad start to commence a relationship with a lie, because there will come a point in time when it either cannot be maintained any longer, or one feels the need to confess. This will hurt the partner, and if one really loves someone, one must avoid causing hurt at any cost, so be truthful from the very start, is my advice.
2006-11-05 09:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dennis J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if the need is great enough, we dont learn TO LOVE A LIE, but its just that WE CHOOSE A DECISION TO LIE. love and truth walks hand and hand. period.
2006-11-05 09:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by blue violet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if a person is desperate enuff or lacks that self worth they will learn to love a lie...for example so many people out here know that their significant other or spouse is cheating and still stay and deal with it because they feel like they rather be with someone some of the time than alone all of the time....
2006-11-06 10:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by MsNic 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
truth stands by itself, everything else falls by the wayside... the only need we have is in the truth we know
2006-11-05 09:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by jesse-dog 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋