i have been mms caregiving fro 2 years[even though she lived with my bro and his wife]i got her out of the house did all medical
er trips etc etc took her whereever. she is now in a nursing home which came from her. now all of a sudden she is the most hatefull person towards me doesnt want me around tokk me off power of attn over medical and went as far as taking me out of her will. now why when ive dne more for mom then any family member am i being treating like dirt??????????????????
im respecting her wishes and staying away because the nastiness from her was really stressing me out.
2006-11-05 00:47:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I could never please my mother either, stop trying....ungrateful
b*tch! The only thing she left me was alive!! Do you really
want anything from her besides her love, which I don't think you will get.....Peace be with you too
2006-11-05 00:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
the reason she is being nasty towards you, is because you were the one taking care of her all that time when others would not. so, out of everyone she feels that you have abandoned her. not the other because they were never there to begin with.so she was not expecting any thing from them but she was of you. when she was placed in the nursing home, she feels that you no longer wanted to help her, and she is really hurt by this. i think it is wrong for you to stop going to see her, sure it is stressful on you, but how stressful do you think it is for your mother, to be placed some where that she knows know one, and has people taking care of her that are strangers. go see your mother, no matter how she acts she still needs you. also the reason she took you off making medical decisions for her, is because i think she really in her heart never thought you would make the decision to place her in a nursing home.
2006-11-05 09:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, i think you should look farther than needed. Since you say that this came out of the blue, even after you've done so much for her, i would think that maybe someone has poisoned her towards you.... like your brother...
This might be because, as you said, the will. I think what you all need to do is just sit down together and have a talk like adults... clear the air. You have a right to ask her why she is treating you this way.
2006-11-05 08:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by freshlimesoda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the situation some time and space. Back off and find peace in your own life. Hopefully, the situation will settle down and you can re-enter your mothers life under new conditions. You can only control your own actions, not anyone else. Good luck to you and stay positive in your thoughts.
2006-11-05 09:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by folklore 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
give her time to adjust to the new situation... she may come around and realize that you did what you could for her out of love, or she'll continue to be nasty. you cant control that. what you want to be in control of is how you react to her negativity. detach and love from a distance for now, until things settle down a bit.
sometimes people make rash decisions on an emotional basis... give her time and she'll come around. in the meantime look after yourself and give yourself time to heal from the impact of your mom's actions. take care.
2006-11-05 08:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by maggiemae821 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It appears to me that your mother may have Alzheimers disease. This should be checked out.
2006-11-05 10:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by rwbblb46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is hard to comprehend because of your spelling.
first off, i went through what you are describing. you need to "suck it up" and not take it personal. your mother is sick and knows she is outta here...she is dealing with losing her independence and control of every aspect of her life.....she doesn't mean it personally. she is mad at her own mind and body for betraying her...she is dealing with facing her own demise.
2006-11-05 09:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you just can't please your parents.
No matter how much you give or do for them, it's never enough.
I have the same problem with my mother, I just stopped talking to her and have no regrets what so ever.
Hope this helps.
2006-11-05 08:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
leave her alone awhile and se if she comes around.
2006-11-05 08:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋