We've slept in the same bed and are inseperable....Were 23 and shes shy....Shes had drunken sex twice in past, 1 to loose her virginity & 2 for some drunken reason but never seen the guy next day. (she said 1st wasnt very good, got the impression 2nd was better but not perfect)....Were in love, met parents etc....I'm not pressuring her... Her friends are getting annoyed/confused as to why shes being like this....I asked her why and she says she has to see me after it and likes what we got now. We havent even had foreplay, just kissing and intimate closeness. I'm not going to dump her but it's embarassing now for us both.... To be honest I just want a bit of foreplay for now but she's always got an excuse, I just want to show her how good it can be and I'm sure she'll like it.
2006-11-05 00:41:19 · 14 answers · asked by Chris H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give her time...it will happen...she just has to trust her own feelings about it first especially since the first 2 times weren't memorable especially on the positive side..... She's probabl;y worried that once you two do it, you'll disappear like the others did. She doesn't want to lose you...so just be there doig what you are doing now.... she'll come around in her own time. So if you really care about her....wait.
2006-11-05 00:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like either she has problems dealing with sex or she just isn't interested in ya anymore.Maybe you should talk to her about how you feel and you feel it's time to take the next step and ask her if she's ready and if not you have the right to know why .You have been together long enough that this should be an ok discussion.Well I hope it works out for you and good luck cause u might need it.
2006-11-05 00:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just hang in there she'll come around just give her some time bad experiences can ruin stuff for people. Never pressure her, I know you're not but just make sure you don't that will cause major problems. If you love her that much then you will wait on her no matter what.
*Life is nothing but living and waiting*
2006-11-05 00:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is scared cause she never enjoyed having sex
maybe she thinks you are going to change when you have sex so you need to prove her that you love her and that you are not going to change
is hard for a woman to have the first experience and the second! with some idiot
you need a person who cares and call the next day to see if you are ok
be gentle and try not to push her into but create situations with love and tenderness
good luck
2006-11-05 00:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your married and clearly in love with this ladies because of the fact it form of sounds such as you do no longer possibly prefer to violate your vows, you basically wanna get off :) And nothings incorrect with that different than that she wont make it easier to yet once you went to somebody else it would be a situation. identity easily refer to her approximately it. this could be complicated yet its greater suitable she hear it then see the situation later. You adult men are married and meant to adhere at the same time and she or he needs to make it easier to realize why she won't hook you up. and she or he needs to understand your needs. and you the two ought to make it artwork in case you like one yet another. yet easily do no longer cheat or shop how your feeling a secret your a grown guy and deserve issues too. Its no longer something incorrect with what you choose basically the form you bypass approximately getting it, sneaky or on the instant up?? whats up GL
2016-10-15 09:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has had two incredibly bad sexual experiences. She has feelings for you, but is waiting to see how you really feel about her. Once you have sex, will you still be there for her? Or will the thrill of the chase be over and you'll leave her? If you love her Chris, tell her so, and reassure her that you will not leave her.
2006-11-05 00:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I AM 29 AND THE MAN I AM MARRIED TO NOW IT TOOK HIM 6 MONTHS FOR HIM TO MAKE LOVE TO ME. DO NOT WORRY SHE SHOULD GET OVER THAT PART, YOU SHOULD JUST START GETTING USE TO COLD SHOWERS FOR AWHILE. AND ALSO THAT WOULD BE PRETTY SHALLOW OF YOU IF YOU WOULD DUMP HER JUST FOR NOT HAVING SEX OR FOREPLAY I MEAN COME ON. MAYBE SHE IS WORRYING BOUT THE OUTCOME OF YOU GUYS HAVING SEX. DO NOT PRESSURE JUST BE THERE FOR HER.
2006-11-05 00:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by Heather P 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she is afraid from her past experiences. it doesnt mean that she dont love you. its just that she is afraid. just continue loving her now and in the future. the right time will come that you can express your love for her through your touches and hers to you too. just be patient in the meantimea continue to make your relationship grow and stronger though no sexaul activity.it is perfectly ok your relationship now with out sex.
2006-11-05 01:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by blue violet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you like her much, coz after all you're just after her body. Most importantly is that you're a super-ego type of guys that really turn girls off, coz you want to show off your bed skills of how good you're and SURE she'll like it. Don't waste each other's time.
2006-11-05 00:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
quit asking her for the right time and when alone just slowly start. You may need to preasure her some. Be the one to take charge and get started.
2006-11-05 00:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋