Remember being a teenager? I do...i am only 21 and i remember being so mean and hateful to my mom....we used to have these screaming arguments and i thought that she was ruining my life and i hated her and blah blah blah.....but i have a son that just turned 1 and another son due in Dec...and i feel so much love for my mother. Was it becoming a mother myself that made me realize how much she actually cared/cares for me??? she wasn't trying to ruin my life....why dont we see that when we are teenagers?
2006-11-05 00:33:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You really hit the nail on the head with that one. I have more love and respect for my parents now that I have kids of my own. I understand more about them. They were never trying to ruin my life they were trying to keep me from ruining it. Just wish I would've listened more to them growing up. I would be so smart now. You never understand anyone's point of view until you're in their situation. My kids think I'm the meanest mama ever. If they only knew how good they really have it.
2006-11-05 00:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by yellowgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to you. I am also 21, even though I have no children, I am married now and I love my parents so much. Of course, we as humans love our parents even when we are teenagers, it is just a stage of growth where we get all rebellious and rude towards them. I have asked my parents for forgiveness of my behaviour in the past and they have forgiven me. Maybe they remember being the same way to their parents, but I don't like being mean to my mom because she had a bad childhood so I don't think she deserves it. Now that we are older, we realize that the times they were "mean" to us were actually for our own good. =)
2006-11-05 03:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have more respect for my parents now. I do love them more too.Now that we are older and wiser we look back with such regret. I am hoping that my daughter treats me a whole lot better than I did my parents.Plus, I am hoping that the relationship I have with my daughter will be more open and trusting. Now it pains me to think that my parents will not be there forever. I try and help them in any way I can. I agree with you 100%.
2006-11-05 01:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As someone said, its maturity... older and wiser.
I do not think I love my parents any more than I did, as mad as they made me sometimes... they were trying to protect me. And as an adult, when I see these 14 year old girls sashaying around in tiny skirts and tops, kids racing cars, drug deals with 12 year olds... I suddenly understood.
I respect who they are more now. They, like most parents, did the best job they knew how to do. I am a responsible adult and have done well for myself.
1 point for Mom and Dad. :)
2006-11-05 01:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I certainly understand them more & appreciate them more now that I'm older. It's amazing what a few years can show you isn't it? I think when we grow up & have our own families to support & raise we become much more understanding of what our parents were trying to do for all those years & realize it was their love for us. Parents are alot smarter than we ever give them credit for. Cherish your relationship with your parents....it's terrible to lose one of them.
2006-11-05 00:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we cannot have enough love for our parents, I have kids I know what you mean, you have a special experience of loosing one, I am so sorry for that.
But the good question you asked is very relevant in all times, parents go thru lots for the sake of their kids, we need to love them while we can, ask the pain to those people who have lost their parents.
2006-11-05 00:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by Syed M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh yes! I am not even a parent, but after finished college and being out on my own, I realised what they had done for me!
2006-11-05 04:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by Suzzette M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your love does grow stronger. I had a great mom and always respected her. I can’t recall ever not loving her. But this bond grows stronger every day.
2006-11-05 00:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by Snicklefritz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you do learn to respect her more when u get older wait until ur son gets you to the point where u call ur mother crying for all the wrong u did to her because ur son in now doing it to you.... i learned that from my 12 yoa son
2006-11-05 00:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by gidgetasp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think as one grows older, they learn to appreciate their parents and what they've done much more then when they're younger, and they feel the need to show them by actions and words.
i think its the matter of the child's maturity to understand and appreciate their parents, more than whether they love them more or less.
2006-11-05 00:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by lil'sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋