my husband is an officer, he often away for 2 or 3 monthes, I feel lonely especially with my daughter. She is now 2 years old and it is time that she should live in a normal family. What makes me upset that manytimes I feel that my husband can't undersatnd me and when he comes I expect more understanding and support, so I feel now unhappy either he is with us or he is away.
2006-11-05 00:28:45 · 8 answers · asked by iman h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
why can't you travel with him for now? your daughter is young enough it wont hurt her....when she is older you might not want to travel as much...but for now i dont see what it would hurt..i dont blame you for feeling lonely...its a normail thing.best wishes
2006-11-05 00:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm sorry you are not feeling satisfied or unhappy. I think it's very difficult for anyone to provide you with the correct answer having not walked in your shoes. However, in my opinion, the most important thing you need to do is communicate. Take action! : ) Make sure you are telling him how you feel. It's very important to make sure you state that "I feel like I'm not getting the support I need" rather than accusing him and placing him in a defensive position. Feeling unhappy is a reality, however it's important to remember that we have every bit of control over our thoughts and feelings. It's just that sometimes we need to remind ourselves that we do have the ability to take the appropriate actions or steps needed to change any situation. It's just a matter of taking action and being able to live with our decisions. Are you comfortable communicating this to him in an appropriate fashion? How will you respond if his response is not what you were looking for? Can you accept that this may just be the way he will always be and be happy with that? If not, then are you motivated enough to take the steps you need to change your situation to find you happiness? Even if that meant leaving him? Ask yourself the right questions, think about your answers, make a list of possible choices you have, choose which one is right for you, and be sure to take ACTION! That is the most important, yet most difficult step for any of us to make. Yet nothing is completed without it. Good luck to you!
2006-11-05 08:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by secsee27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off please consider counseling for this. I know it can be hard to live single with a child and you feel you deserve more, but your husband is doing something that he feels he needs to do, and needs your support also. You both need to talk about this, Maybe you could join a womans group, or start one so you can all talk about your feelings and support one another, till your husbands come home..Sometimes men have a hard time showing support, they feel they might be the weaker for it. Good luck to you, I hope you can work this out and find happiness for all of you...god bless
2006-11-05 08:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't state if he's an officer in the US military or not. If he is then he should be able to take his family with him wherever he's stationed.. Then you would at least be with other wives in the same situation and have someone that understands what you're going through.
2006-11-05 10:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HUMM NOT QUITE SURE HOW TO ANSWER THI ONE, BUT IF HES A COP HE SHOULDN'T HAVE TO STAY OUT PERIOD, UNLESS HE'S LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE AND IF HE'S IN THE MILITARY OF SOME SORT, THIS COULD BENEFIT ALL OF YOU IN THE NEAR FUTURE, BUT ONE THING I KNOW IS THAT HE SHOULD BE MORE SUPPORTIVE OF YOUR FEELINGS UNLESS YOUR ASKING FOR TO MUCH, SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO SEE IT FROM BOTH SIDES, IF HE'S IN THE MILITARY GIRL HE'S JUST LOOKING FOR A BRIGHTER FUTURE FOR YA AND YOU KNOW IT WAS BOUND TO HAPPENED ONCE HE LISTED, FIND EXTRA THINGS TO DO, HOOK-UP WITH OTHER WIVES, WHO ARE GOING THREW THE SAME THING AND TREASURE EVERY MOMENT, EVERY PHONE CALL THAT YOU HAVE WITH HIM, TALK TO HIM, DONT YELL AND TRY TO SEE HIS POINT OF VIEW ALSO, BUT IF HE'S JUST A COP, I ADVICE YOU TO CALL CHEATERS OR DO A LITTLE INVESTIGATING YOURSELF, GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-05 08:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by smokin_mini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about how you feel, or maybe he should change his job for you , for your daughter. I agree not being home for 2-3 months is really hard and can ruin a relationship.
2006-11-05 10:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by slai171 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MARRIED A POLICE OFFICER.
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-05 08:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave each other, it is the best for you two!!!
2006-11-05 08:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by S@D L@Dy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋