heres my experience,,once a cheat always a cheat,,and love cant change them,,i didnt have anything to do with me,,he cheated with the next 3 wives he had,,he divorced 5 times..i have also been in physically abusive relationships..i desided 10 years ago that i really know how to pick them..i gave up..i trust nobody cuz of my life experience,,finding a good man is like finding a needle in a hay stack..im even reluctant to go on a date..how many of u want to become lonely,bitter old women like me? go ahead say it will never happen you wont become this way,,and i hope you dont..but if u stay addicted to bad relationships you dont know how you will turn out to be,,our past experience's makes us who we are today
2006-11-05 00:17:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry you were treated so badly.Sometimes people stay in a bad relationship, because they are afraid to be alone. Sometimes it's because the other person has stripped them of who they are and they don't realize it is happening to them. Sometimes people settle for less then they deserve. Sometimes it's for the childrens sake. Everyone has a reason for why and it is they who have to live with it. I wish them well and I hope they find the strength within to be happy ..
2006-11-05 00:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by lynda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree that finding a good one is like finding a needle in a haystack. there are many different kinds of abuse. and i will say that ive had both and the mental is a lot worse than the physical.
when i had a miscarriage and had to have a hysterectomy and found out that the man that i was living with was messing around with my best friend, i swore off men. i moved into a trailer next door to a nice guy. his friends came over a lot. one certain cousin kept coming over. i began to wonder if it was my baby that was attracting him because she was all over him all the time. . after a year of coming over almost every day and being a friend, we finally started seeing each other. that was 9 years ago. neither of us have any plans of going anywhere.
it took a long time and a lot of patience to get over the trust issue. it still comes up from time to time, but i finally found one that i could live with and not be abused. i didnt find him, he found me. thats the key. time and patience and love finding you instead of going out and looking for it.
good luck.
and what is wrong with being alone, i know that sometimes your own company is a lot better for you than most men out there that think that a woman is dirt.
2006-11-05 00:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People stay in bad relationship mainly because of the gap in a communication link in between them. Its wrong to really blame one party. A person is sincere and even then he is blamed to be a convict of cheating made him to think that its better to be real convict than becoming innocent convict. We have to trust each other and try giving time before blaming any one that what are those circumstances which has lead him/her in the scenarion. More can be shared with at naptune76@yahoo.co.uk
2006-11-05 00:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Paassion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is all about kinds and luxury stages. What you want to understand is that folk, not in basic terms women human beings, are maximum gentle even as they are in a trend of habit that they understand and are gentle with. even as it contains relationships it is a dastardly or perhaps deadly mixture. If a lady grows up in an abusive (psychological, emotion, actual, sexual) difficulty she is going to understand subconsciously that type of habit as "suitable" for intimate relationships. that is why women those who were abused as toddlers ordinarily finally end up in abusive marriages or relationships. So all this suggested, the reason women human beings do not go away abusive relationships is because they experience that it really is what love quite is. notwithstanding if on an psychological aspect they comprehend they might want to go away, their guts actually tell them, that it really is what a relationship is meant to be like. It takes an quite sturdy and insightful woman to break that cycle. And by technique of how, do not imagine that in basic terms because you're a "effective" guy and her "suitable buddy" who she says has tons to furnish to the "correct" woman means that she is interested in you. She's not. She is broken products. and he or she needs specialist help to break that cycle. Your furnish almost as good because it would want to seem doesn't in good structure her cutting-edge concepts of an intimate, sexual relationship. Sorry.
2016-11-28 19:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by gagliano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love the person to begin with. You want to honor your marriage vows. You have a child. You hope things will get better. Your self esteem is low. It's become a habit. Fear. Stupidity.
2006-11-05 00:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because for some a bad relationship is better than no relationship and there are some people who believe that is what they got what they deserve . They have very low self esteem and don't believe that they could do any better
2006-11-05 00:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever stop blaming the men and find the cause of the pattern for picking them?Remedy that and happiness will follow
2006-11-05 00:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im sorry that you've had continuing bad relationships, do you think that maybe you gave up on true love a long time ago and maybe thats why?,... some say that women marry their fathers, did you have a bad relationship with you father?
2006-11-05 00:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by singmelies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To quote Charlie Chaplin's character in his first talking picture 'Monsieur Verdoux'..."Despair is a narcotic; it lulls the mind into indifference."
2006-11-05 00:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are what you attract....ive been told this before and now i dont settle for losers ...i try to change my life for the better every day and things do go for the better trust me
2006-11-05 00:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋