i found out, while my bf and i were fighting that he IMed some random girl on yahoo, and jerked off to her doing only God knows what on her web cam. he claims its not a big deal b/c we were fighting and i wasnt there. although we spoke on the phone everyday. i feel like he cheated on me. i mean he might as well have brought this slut home and f*ed her. i am so confused. i am so torn/ b/c i dont know if i can forgive, and i dont know if i really am just over reacting. i found porn on his computer b4 and told how that hurt my feelings. i can understand (not like but understand) his watchin porn, but he told this slut she was beautiful, how hard she was making him, and how sexy she was and so on. is it just me or is this cheating? i wonder how he would feel if some stranger was jerking off to me naked on a web cam. that would make a whore, so how come it doesnt make him one? how come b/c i wasnt there to "satisfy" him, its ok? PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR OPINION! thanks.
2006-11-04 23:54:56 · 17 answers · asked by so confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that's an f'ed up situation. my mom was actually in the same situation with my step-dad. they got divorced over it (after being married for 10 years and having a daughter together). it, in MY mind is considered cheating. my husband looks at porn and hentai on the net and i dont have a problem with it what-so-ever....but when you actually start having contact with another person....weather it be physical or not....then its considered cheating. I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. you know your relationship best...so I'm not going to tell you to leave him or anything like that. you know in your heart whats right and wrong. do the right thing and dont let him hurt you again.
2006-11-05 00:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-17 13:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, that in my book is cheating. Then again, under certain circumstances Porn is cheating too. My guy has done the same thing, only he took it further and was actually LOOKING for someone else to f*k. Don't let him get that far. If he keeps saying its not a big deal he doesn't care or understand your feelings on the matter. My guy and I had a fight and he got a lapdance from some chick in a bar just to spite me. He still hears about it. It's NOT ok. PERIOD!
2006-11-05 00:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Niki O'Brien 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He most defiantly got his rocks off with another girl. Just because he did not actually touch her does make it any better. What the key here is, that he knows this bothers you. He showed no respect your feeling at all. If he is so weak that he has to do something like this because you were not there to satisfy him, I would be worried about his ability to be true to you.. I can bet with all I've got that this was not his first time...nor will it be his last time.
There are many people who do not veiw this as cheating when they cam another..but becasue you feel it is..and he knows that...he totaly cheated on you.
2006-11-05 00:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally think that is wrong. I don't care if it's physical contact or not! To me it's cheating! I don't know if you'll be able to trust him, and if you have no trust....it's really hard to be with someone.
I feel computers and porn and all that....are a major problem in relationships today! It's straight up evil.....If he can't respect your feelings sweetie, one thing you should ask yourself....do you want to be with someone that doesn't respect how it hurts you?
If he continues it.....he honestly has no respect for your relationship together, and you are worth so much more than that! There are men out there that don't do that crap....they actually enjoy pleasing there women and not just themselves! Maybe that's all this dude deserves IS his hand! *mischievous grin*
I'll tell you one thing....It happened to me, but after talking with my bf, he has respected me and as far as I know he hasn't done it since...he said he was just curious, and I believe him.
If I didn't I wouldn't be with him today...so...I guess what I am trying to say..I know it's hard to break up with someone you care about, but if he can't respect you...then there is someone else out there that will, and you are the most important person in your life and you deserve to get the best!
Well I hope all works out for you *hugs*
2006-11-05 00:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by angeliceyeswi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you two need other mates! And, you need to get a life...what the hell were you doing rifling through his computer files, anyway??? If a person is going to cheat, there'a not a damned thing you can do about it; not screw faster, or give great BJ's or shower them with money. It has nothing to do with YOU, it's up to them! And, I'd have to say, this gentleman has a wandering eye, so unless you're good with the open relationship thing, you're going to be disappointed more often than not if you stick around. The best you can do is enjoy the parts of the person you can and don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.
2006-11-05 00:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i still consider that cheating, whether done on cam through the net or in person. just because you fought is not a reason for him to cheat or jerk off. he is simply immature and a natural cheater. if i am you i will dump him. he is not worth you, he will never be worth you two years or ten years from now. think what will he do if you are already married and you fight. will he run to other girls/woman just to get a jerk. Rid him now while you still can. Its gonna hurt but the hurt will be temporary.
2016-05-22 00:46:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
porn is a business selling a product. Like you said, you don't have to like it...but it is just a business.
IM is quite a bit more personal, in my opinion. He may as well have brought her home... If the roles were reversed, you would definitely feel like you were cheating.
2006-11-05 00:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by suziq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey...he is nasty
jerks off with strangers while u r not here...c'mon will u be there all day long just to watch him...he isnt a little kid....he must learn how to handle things...and know what to do or not....and when and with who he can do some things"u know" so....if that wasnt cheating...then u define cheating plz...!!
2006-11-05 00:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by Blueberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sound right to me. I would condiser it cheating myself also. As you said he was seeing this "chick" doing only god knows what on cam for him.
2006-11-05 00:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by Kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋