I posted a question a couple days before, this is sort of a follow up. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvZ0zMROyRq2woK_Eyqxldvsy6IX?qid=20061029054842AAbtY1N.
Let's call the first guy Jerry and the second Raul. Well Raul asked me out to see a movie, we had tons of fun... even ended up kssing a bit. After the movie, we were holding hands walking when we ran into Jerry... who was very pissed. I felt so guilty... although we never went out... I communicated to him that I had feelings for him. I feel like horrible.... but I still do honestly really like Raul...and I could see myself being with him, especially since I have no little voices telling me to stay away. -sigh-... is there something wrong with me? am I a bad person?...should I just leave them both alone? how do I not ruin my friendship with Jerry... and what to do about Raul?
2006-11-04 23:30:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe i should mention...that i met both these guys around the same time... raul through my best friends boyfriend and jerry through family. jerry's family and mine travelled together for two weeks to the uk and we spent a lot of time together... it was during that time I realised I prolly liked him and he admitted he felt for me too. but that's as far as it went because I was worried about being with him. after we got back home... raul and i really started conversing, for at least 3 hours per day...I resisted feeling for him for a while. I even asked Jerry to come with me to a fair to see if maybe the fears about him were because i didn't see him or talk to him a lot... we had fun but they were still there...
2006-11-04 23:48:18 · update #1
someone asked...
yes i do like raul a whole lot more than i do jerry... its just that i feel that i'm obligated to be with him because he knew i like him... so i'd be a bad person to lets say go back on my word.
2006-11-05 00:00:30 · update #2
nothing is wrong with you dear, its called falling in love, my advice is follow your heart, if Raul makes you happy, then be with him, coz its happiness we are all lookinh for, gud luck.
2006-11-04 23:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by evets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not done anything wrong. The fact that you have feelings for someone and have gone out with someone else just means that you are exploring your options. I would suggest that you make up your mind about whom to be with and with whom you would be happiest. It sounds like you really like Raul and you don't have any red flags shooting up inside your head when you are with him.
Be honest with Jerry and tell him that you do have feelings for him, but you don't think that it would work out. You'd like to remain friends with him, but nothing more-if that is your decision. The truth usually works best with everything, and if you do tell the truth to these men, there will be no room for questioning about what you feel or what you mean from them. Good luck!
2006-11-05 07:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't leave the alone, its not your fault this has happened. I think Jerry missed out and took his time telling you how he felt or for asking you out. your not a bad person and you never know may things won't work out with raul and you might ened up with jerry. who knows.
2006-11-05 07:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Trent B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi...i think you really have a big problem but please don't think that you're a bad person..first and foremost, i think since raul has no idea about what's going on between you and jerry, why don't you settle your problem first with jerry...?try to talk to him again and explain what you really feel for raul and that you and him can still be good friends..at least you would not hurt them both..
2006-11-05 07:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by honeymay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with raul,,jerry has no reason to be jealous or upset,,cuz u havent dated jerry
2006-11-05 07:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
raul will b ur lover n jerry will b ur friendu knw who u love right?
2006-11-05 07:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, well u will have to pick one... and someone is going to end up pissed and angry.
you must like one more than other dont you?
2006-11-05 07:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by drtmvs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta pick one and one is gonna be pissed!
2006-11-05 07:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god has gifted you mind. use it who is most one in your list just select that's it.
2006-11-05 07:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by GLADIATOR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's wrong with you?
2006-11-05 07:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Chucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋