is he moving to fast?? i just got out of a long term/long distance relationship of 2yrs in july and i met him early sept. my ex lived in ny and im in tx..he moved in with me and we lived together for 4 months until it all failed and it turned out in an abusive relationship..i had 2 send him packing and eventually i got completly over him with my new guy but i find my self doing the same things ive once did with the ex..im i making the same mistake?
2006-11-04 22:59:38 · 13 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say if you're already asking that question...you already know the answer...you're moving too fast! If you just got out of a bad relationship before this one I'd take it a little slower this time. Get to know this guy better before you move in together & start having babies. It took you 4 months to figure out the other guy was wrong, so move a bit slower this time & be sure he is a good guy who has the right intentions & will treat you right. If he truly cares about you, he will be willing to go a bit slower with you.
2006-11-04 23:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Miss-guided,
In this particular situation, I would say that more time getting to know your I'm assuming boyfriend (you use the phrase "new guy") to identify him. What you need to know to make this process much easier, are some important questions and activities that you need to know/do about/with him in order to grasp a better feel of the results if you do decide to live together with him. For example, how many relationships has he had, why did the relationships end, is his personality comparable to your ex-boyfriend's personality and also posing some scenarios for him to help you decide if moving in with him is the best choice for you. Also, have you met his parents? and has he met your parents? Are his parents divorced/separated/widowed? Compare those answers with yours and discuss the possibility of living together, can help you with this decision.
Sincerely,
The Love Doctor
2006-11-04 23:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by The Love Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not exactly a matter of time u know him as much as it is the matter of time u have to give urself to decide. u were recently out of a relation when u met him and this love could've formed only as a reaction to what happened with ur ex. be careful and give urself enought time to think. as i said before, it's not a matter of how long cz there are people u can know and understand in days while it could take u years for others.
good luck :]
2006-11-04 23:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by the freakin' analyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you'd better start standing up for yourself or your going to be in the same boat again, without a paddle. Get out of it right now before it's to late. Tell him you'd rather wait, take your time and go slow, don't give him any more reasons to "want you" stop now.
2006-11-04 23:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't move in with him!!! NO! Date for a year..see if you are really happy. Set a date and start putting deposits on things for the wedding. THEN move in with him...make sure it is his money on the depsoits for the wedding....if you see any red flags after moving in with him ...leave and go your own way and say bye to him!
2006-11-04 23:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its too soon!
its not that easy to forget a long relationship that turned bad.
be careful and WISE, so that this time, you won't get hurt.
take things ONE STEP at a time and good luck.
2006-11-04 23:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by Busy Diyosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much too soon...be careful. stay clear be on your own for a while don't rush into living with someone. you can learn things about yourself living alone.
2006-11-04 23:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by benzeeno619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT rush into things! You have not had enough time to know what the 'new guy' is all about!
2006-11-04 23:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes goingto quick and if u aint comfortable with it then tell him
2006-11-04 23:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
three words, way, too ,fast!
2006-11-04 23:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by ♥starry_eyed_girl♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋