HELP . badly depressed ?

Question

i need some advice . im a 28 year old man who wakes up every morning wishing i was dead . and before you say i need counselling or anti depressants , i have tried all that with no success . i got 3 kids from a previous relationship who i love more than anything and i feel that the only reason i am still alive is because i see them often. i have a job , a girlfriend but i just feel like giving up . i got no motivation in my life anymore and i just cant figure out any reasons for me to feel like this, its really geting to me . has anyone else been in this situation , and if so how did u get out of it ? serious answers only please cos i just take anymore messing about . thanks

i tried exercise but i badly damaged a muscle and im waiting to into hospital for an operation before i can do anymore

thanks for all your answers , its nice to know that im not the only person to feel depressed . also id like to ad that im not religous in any way

Answer 1

I have never been so depressed that I wanted to kill myself but my friend has and ended up having a nervous breakdown.Please get someone such as a friend or family member that can help you thru your difficult time.Remember that your kids need you and love you and how hurt and traumatizing it would be if you were to hurt yourself or die.Also check yourself into a hospital for a few days so that you can get some rest and they can help figure out why you are feeling the way that you feel.I hope that you feel better and best wishes.

Answer 2

bummer man. Well, I can relate. I understand your situation and would, like most tell you to seek a good therapist but since you've been down that road, maybe a different direction would be in order. You didn't mention if you are a religious person or not. You would probably find that becoming involved in a church could be a big help. Spiritual health goes a long way towards general health, including mental. What are your hobbies? I have found that producing something makes me feel better. Be careful with this one though, taking on an expensive of difficult hobby can have the reverse effects by making you feel like a failure. Also, your age is a very depressing age believe it or not. The 20s are usually a struggle even if it doesn't really seem like it. You will probably notice that the 30s are so much better. Good luck man.

Answer 3

Dear ONLY ME____________ been there done that and got the tea shirt!!

Autualy I could be there at any time unless I think differently and look differently at my circumstances and situtation.

I live only for my 81 year old mother and my animials this is my purpose to keep going for them to see they are treated with care and respect which they deserve and I will protect them.

I feel worthless in my own right I say I'm as good as dead even better as regards the rest of the worlds populations who don't give a dam or even notice we are alive anyway.

The worlds doings or misgivens get to me with the daily antics and this tells the tale but I try not to let it hurt me if possible - but it stills does when you have been hurt and are sensivite to matters that are wrong and unfair.

I am sorry if I am depressing you here I thought I needed to let you know your not alone in how you feel its not your fault it just this thing called life.

You are as good as anyone else dont put your self down 1st of all. You have 3 lovely children which you love very much and a girlfriend who appreciates you company.

Live to do the best you can for your children confide with someone who you can trust when you feeling down to talk things over it is a burden or a weight halved and when you sleep on it it usualy looks smaller anyway. Think posivite get plenty of fresh air go for walks take time to smell the roses look at the birds got to the seaside take up a hobby gardening is good. Just get in touch with your inner side which is crying out and needs love. Look for good when things go wrong bring light into darkness. Smile more think of something funny even singing is great to lift a burden and you dont have to sing like something from the X factor show either, singing in the bath is great who cares if someone hears. Saying prayers are very good for anytime I know. It is very good to watch comedy movies it is called laughter therpy. I love an aromatherpy massage to help relaxation and unwind the nerves the touch part is great and comforting especially if you have physcial pain.

Can you sleep I once upon a time couldnt sleep I dont take medication by the way I am still waiting on counseling.

Leave all outside the bedroom door switch off refuse to let the nonesence enter in to your private space - listen to soft music and thank the Lord for helping you for everything.

Take care hope you get some relief this is your life now only me make the most of what you've got dont look for happiness from outside it is an inner peace that when you've been hurt it can be disturbed some people never find it and they have everything except peace.

Answer 4

i have suffered from depression for has long has i can remember its an awful thing and at times you think no one else could feel the same but sadly there are thousands of people all feeling the same i no you say you've tried counselling and antidepressants well my advice to you is to carry on with the counselling and antidepressants and hopefully you will find the help you need has i did after all the counselings and various medications i now take Prozac have done for a few years but i am a completely different person now and its very rare i get really down hope you find the help you need

Answer 5

Hi you deffo no tthe only one im 36 and suffered "clinical" depression as long as can remember... taken all the types of anti-depressents that are available and many take what seems like absolutlely for ever before they work at all but if you go to a dr and he trys some stick with them as he tells you to as they arent a fast cure at all. Done therapy stuff.hospitals and everything over the years.
Its not a nice way to feel but it can be helped for sure but no quick answers to this im affraid
When you say lack of motivation and seeing you have job/gf/kids etc its easy for people to not fully understand what you mean but it can be a case of you kinda manage normal life just enough to get by when needed at work etc but aftet that you feel totally drained and want to do nothing at all.
I`d mention it to your GP to start with ...just doing that can help as then you know your working on solving it which is a big step forward.
All the Best, Nige

Answer 6

Finding someone that can empathise with you will make a whole lot of difference, ive suffered myself with anxiety and depression, i took a negativeview of counselling and saw it as counsellors were text book trained and could not possibly know how i felt if they had not experienced it themselves, i was fortunate, i woke every morning not wanting to, my highlight of the day was bedtime so i could just shut it out, the only thing that helped me was finding someone who couldreally empathise with me,it takes a lot of work, alot of determination which is hard to find when there isnt any motivation to even brush your teeth, cognitive behaviour therapy is reasonable, when you understand why and what depression really is, learn that it is actually a serious illness and not a choice, things eventually get easier,i wish you all the best x

Answer 7

Sort of early mid life crisis maybe? I wish I could help, Im alot younger than u, but trust me, I know what depression is like, tho I am sure urs is different. I dont know what can be done to help u for long term results. But waking up every morning wishing u were dead is not a good sign. Live for ur children, make that ur main motivation.

Answer 8

Yes, I have been depressed before and felt hopeless about everything.

There is hope.

If you know what is causing the depression, like it is a stimulus based depression, you need to find a way to alter the stimulus that is causing you to feel low. If you cannot pinpoint the cause, self help books are good - If you are not a self help type of person, try seeing a psychiatrist who can help you out of this - Usually they will recommend a combination of talk therapy with a medication to boost your mood. There is nothing wrong with taking a medicine if it will help you feel better and get your life back.

Good luck

Answer 9

i think u should go to the doctor and have a check up...and i dont mess with u...maybe u are having some other problem which results in feeling depressed....i had thyroeudis for 7 years and didnt khow it and was feeling awful and crying all day long...and wanted to die....when i had my surgery and started the treatment i started feeling better now im 21 and going to the doctor every week and trying to stay healthy which is impossible i dont khow why!...of course there are always times when sth goes wrong and the pills are not enough for my hormones to work but i try not to fall into depression again....because its awful and i understand u....so i suggest u should have a check up and if nothing shows maybe start yoga or sth like that....that will make u feel better....
i hope i helped u a little
good luck!!!!!and think positive :)

Answer 10

Here is my advise - Get some paper - pencil - NOW - on one side of the paper I want you to write ALL the things that make you HAPPY - on the other side - ALL the things that make you SAD! and I strongly suggest you do this in your private moments,not with your girlfriend. Now be HONEST on these lists, your the only one who will see them. Once you have made the lists - cross reference them - eg: love my children - then LOOK at your Happy list and combine them - On your Sad list - look again on your Happy list - and try and cross-reference that item. The left over items - are what you WORK AT..This doesn't change overnight, but it gives GREAT HOPE. Your Happy/Want list, you have a lifetime to complete.. or some ... you can accomplish in a very short time. If you are restricted by monetary problems, work out a truthful Budget, and Stick to It. If you can't afford it, don't buy it. Having 3-children, a girlfriend and all the expensed that go with it, is DEPRESSING in Itself!.. Your young - there is All the hope in the World for YOU! When tragedy hit my life I was 47 -divorced, and my only child, my beloved son Stephen was killed. I took over the custody of my two granddaughters (1 & 2), and began life as a "sigle mother" all over again. No one knows STRESS better then I. I am the Master of Stress.... Drinking, drugs, RX drugs, none of them worked for me... I had to work this out myself.. I knew I could.. and I did... it took a long time... but I never gave up - today I have 2 more then beautiful daughters, 22 & 24 - both on their own now - but never a day goes by I don't see or hear from them. Your first job is to stay healthy for your children, what they see in you will be immitated in them, and could also be developed, so you want ONLY the GOOD to develop in them. Take a GOOD look around - look at where you live - your job - your support system - friends and family - all these components make up your inner feelings - that is why you are in this state.. make all the necessary changes to make YOU HAPPY.. REMEMBER.. if Your not Happy, no one in your life will be Happy.... My "shrink" gave me the best advice I ever received - "never let go of your sense of humour" - and a little ps on that - "its the only thing the Government hasn't taxed us on"... I'll be thinking of you and your children - Do It For Them and God's Good Blessings On All of You.