my long distance gf has not been intimate with me, and she wont even get sexy online or on the phone or anything doesnt really talk about it, but she claims to be very passionate was a rabbit with ex's, i feel like she not having me as a bf like that, she claims not to have had sex for 4 yrs, nothing, am i being duped
2006-11-04 21:51:40 · 22 answers · asked by john d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, but I think so.
2006-11-04 21:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by F 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'd drop her like a bad habit! I know some are going to say she is frigid, but that is a cop out to keep from having sex. They either do it and enjoy it, or do it to service you. The ones that service you, have problems, and may have been raped as a child. Unless she is willing to seek counseling, and really rocks your world, then yeah, run the other way. She don't talk about it because she thinks in her mind as being a dirty thing that she really don't want to do to begin with. If she hasn't had sex in four years, that ought to be a clue. To have a GF that only wants to have sex when they want it, does not meet your needs, and will never last, unless they are willing to work through these hang ups. Do you have the patience to wait on her to make up her mind as to whether or not she is in the mood? To answer your question; yes you are being duped! You must find someone who shares your same interests, and that includes the sex thing also. Hope this helps.
Some of the other answers above are not being fair. I don't care if one asks a question 37 times, the others don't HAVE to answer it, if they think you asked it before! The thing is; sometimes you can ask a question, and get such awful answers that you still don't know what to do. If you will notice; a lot of the answers don't even answer the question, but rather give you an opinion. If some of them want to be insulting, just report them. Like I said; they don't have to asnwer the question, and to be rude when they do, is not any way to treat anyone. Calling you a loser is wrong, and against the guidlines/rules of this site. I'm not saying this to get votes, but I don't think people have to be rude, and others comfirm it by voting them best answers. A lot of them need to learn how to answer a question, and leave their snide remarks to themselves. If one can't say something nice, then it is better to say nothing at all. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-04 22:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very unkind to even think you are being duped in some way!
The lack of sex for 4 years can effect the sex drive by taking away the need for love making. Maybe she needs more time or more excitement to 'relight her fire'.
Do you think it is possible that she just is not turned on by phone sex or on-line liaisons?? Some people just find them perverted!!
Or maybe she is just not turned on by you??
Try something different, or travel to see her - I can't imagine anyone wanting to be intimate with a practical stranger or wanting to making passionate love through the medium of a computer or telephone.
What you're suggesting is very unromantic and would probably lead to most women splitting up with you,rather than fulfilling your perversions! You should consider yourself lucky that she is willing to put up with such disgusting sexual needs!!
2006-11-04 22:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by beflihippy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
john d, I'm beginning to think you are a pathetic loser. Prove me wrong and go get a life! It's not really difficult. Start by leaving the house. Then learn how to communicate with people. Then learn how to talk to girls. Then find a girl who LIKES you and begin dating. You might even get a kiss or two if you play your cards right.
2006-11-04 22:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm not surprised she won't get intimate with you when you spend all your time online complaining instead of trying to talk to her. Go and get a real life and stop asking questions.
2006-11-04 22:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she isn't into the relationship since it's long distance. I know I wouldn't be. Move on and get a relationship that isn't long distance.
2006-11-05 11:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yup. Stop paying for her meals, cinema tickets, etc, go the numbers in the "massage" section of the Daily Sport and get someone who f*cks for a living!
2006-11-04 21:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well i guess it depends on how long ur relationship has been going and how much time u spend together
Perhaps she is nervous if she hasnt had sex for a while
Try and talk to her and get her to open up
Good luck X
2006-11-04 21:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by kirsty d 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You are being duped.. You ask just about the same thing everyday.
She's just using you to pay her rent and sleeping with other men.
Wake up and leave that gold digger
2006-11-04 21:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
r u pressurizing her?maybe she is just not ready,and wants a little space.another perspective is she is scared she wont satisfy u.maybe she isn't comfortable doing all those things and is just pretending to be wild to keep u interested till she is ready coz listening to them u certainly are hooked to your long distance gf.
2006-11-04 22:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by shweta_raidu 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're getting boring now. I've read your other questions and think you know the answer already. Deal with it and change the record eh?
2006-11-04 21:53:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋