i have this problem were im always putting myself down,i think im realy ugly when i look in the mirror,i have a bf but i cant help how i feel and its making me depressed and when i have sex with my bf im just depressed abut the way i look.i got told i was ugly by people from a young age and for a long time to.
iv tryed wearing make up seeing if that would make me feel better but its just the same,plus my bf thinks if i wear foundation he hates the feeling,i dont even put alot on.i dunno how to get out this mood
2006-11-04 21:43:51 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
You think you're ugly and yet you're able to get a boyfriend? And one who prefers you without make up? There's loads of us out here who aren't hung up on our looks and yet seem unable to find someone with whom we can have a relationship. Get professional counselling.
2006-11-04 21:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
OK my little Darlin! Read and Retain - (this is the BEST advice you will get here)... I want you to go to the nearest Drug store,ask when the next "FREE" make-up application demo is. This is NOT to apply make-up, but to have a Professional analyse your TOTAL body appearance. You may need to get a new hairstyle,you may need to have your teeth straightend. There are many things a "girl" can do to make up for what she may think is "ugly"! Maybe you could dress a little different, more in style. But most of all, DON'T listen to your boyfriend - he may be telling you these things because HE doesn't want you to look attractive, HE isn't able to cope with Competition.Having had people in your life that were Insensitive to your Wellbeing is a tragedy. It may take years, or it may last your lifetime - your self-esteme is SHOT! I hope and pray that it wasn't your immediate family that said those words to you. Look inside my sweet girl .. looks are only "skin deep" - and to be judged by your looks alone, is extremely superficial. Check out the new TV series "Ugly Betty" ..take on her attitude, you can do it, I know. Remember this - in a relationship - "if the man cannot do for you what you do for yourself, the door that got him in, will get him OUT quicker". Good Luck in Life - keep a Big Smile on your face . . Block out All negative remarks, respond with Humor - and remember this -"if you can't say something nice, Don't say Anything At ALL!..I'am on your side, just like every woman should be.
2006-11-05 06:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes words do hurt don't they, but you have a boyfriend whose with you and must like you. In truth even models on the front covers without their make-up and camera shots are extremely plain to say the least. Make the most of what you have got. It really doesn't matter except what is inside and this will shine through if you are happy with yourself. Those that are photogenic when young will get old like the rest of us.
Look at your good qualities and push the others to one side. Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Think beautiful things about yourself be beautiful.
Sounds like the people who told you these cruel things were ugly themselves and jealous otherwise they wouldn't have done so.
Be brave and face yourself and accept yourself.
2006-11-08 16:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I greatly doubt that you are ugly, however if you are there are two ways to tackle this 1) go and have some plastic surgery etc. to get the look you require or 2) go and get yourself some help for self-esteem. People who judge a book by it's cover are not worth knowing, honestly. If you feel ugly you will portray yourself as such. Think that you are lovely and wonderful and then look at your face in the mirror and it will show through. You cannot mess up your life because you put yourself down, you only have one chance in this life f**k what you look like on the outside it is what is inside that matters. There is too much emphasis put on looks these days. Don't ask your bf whether you should wear make up or not, it is up to you what you do, don't listen to what other people say - this is your life please, please, just enjoy it and don't worry so much. I am certain you can't be ugly and even if you are if you look at people do you judge them on how they look? I bet you don't. Be happy and best of luck. ///*.*\\\ love lottie x.
2006-11-05 05:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by lottie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
look i used to get made fun of all the time when i was younger and i went threw a stage where i wouldnt leave the house unless i was wearing make up cuz i thought it made me look better. then when i got in the real world i realized people dont care about what you look like and if ithey do they arent worth your time people care about whats inside and thats what makes anyone attractive so if you feel ugly on the outside think about what a great person you are and that you have a significant other that thinks the same.
2006-11-05 05:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Tanya B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try focusing on the good parts...y'know, emphasize the pretty parts to try and take the focus off your not-so-good areas. Try taking walks everyday. The daily exercise will help lighten your mood.... I was told I was ugly when I was younger, I was called sheep girl in high school, these guys would actually make sheep sounds as I walked by them, because of my curly hair and was always self conscious about that, but now people are always telling me what nice curly hair I have, so being called those names doesn't bother me any more. Alot of stuff happens when your younger that you can't control, but you can't dwell on it too much either. Please just try to appreciate what is good about yourself and you'll start feeling better. BTW, how old are you?
2006-11-05 05:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by Althea 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We judge oursleves by the evidence. You were told you were ugly in the past and still believe it. You need to mix with more people and people who will give you an opinion you can trust. Maybe a doctor. You need solid evidence that you are not ugly. I doubt very much that you are. Also look at people reactions to you - really ugly people and people look away. If you can get eye contact - stop worrying.
2006-11-05 06:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mike10613 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you look like a gray smiley face to me... :o)
But seriously, if you think about how ugly you are at least once an hour- seek help. If you often find that in the middle of something fun you think you don't deserve to be having fun-seek help. If it's not that bad, try a new haircut. And remember, other people could tell you that you are pretty- but it's doing you no good.
2006-11-05 05:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kara 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry you feel that way,I know that feeling from when I was young, large family and two sisters gorgeous,one even told my mother "Do something about Her"I was about five and over
weight.I hid,I cried.I am sure You are not ugly,let that thought go.
As I grew older,I got past that,The old I'm O.k. Your O.k..I also
learned real beauty is within,when I meet a person,I see there
heart.The ugly people are the ones who said hurtful words to you.
2006-11-05 06:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by gwhiz1052 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, mostly.
For me, I make myself feel better by complimenting myself somehow everyday. It might be when I wake up in the morning, I'll look in the mirror and think (or say out loud) something positive about myself. Maybe even pamper yourself sometimes, buy something that makes you feel good or look pretty (It works for me, lol).
Also, keep in mind that people aren't perfect! Everyone has flaws, but we need to focus on the positive things about ourselves.
2006-11-05 05:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A new hair do, a bit of make up , and then go for a walk round your local supermarket and take a good look at the OTHERS and you will see that you just ain't so bad, we can not all be beauty queens or Rambo's. P.S that is not me in the avatar
2006-11-05 06:08:34 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋