ive been having sex with this guy for about 2 months now and its great its amazing sex and im starting to really like him but there are a few things he does that make me feel like im just his jump off. he lives in 135th and i live in downtown brooklyn i always travel really late to see him and he never picks me up from the train station, i always buy the condoms, and once he asked me to go out and get the condoms and it was drizzling outside, another thing is he's never asked me out, he doesnt have a job so he says he doesnt have money to take me out, he said he treats me like he would treat his girl but i just cant believe that. he told me that he is feeling me even though he may not show it. he really makes me feel good and he seems to care a bout me am i making a big deal out of nothing or should i stop seeing him. im really into him and im hoping maybe a relationship can come out of this so am i just his booty call or am i a potential girlfriend?
2006-11-04 21:35:16 · 26 answers · asked by DulceVeneno 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely booty call. If he doesn't have a job, and you're okay with that, he should be able to make some time for you, even if you're just hanging out.
2006-11-04 21:38:28 · answer #1 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should have gotten the girlfriend relationship established first. Of course you are a booty call and a very kind one also. So you take the train late at night then walk to his house and you even stop to purchase the condoms. Girl, get a grip on yourself. Find someone who will treat you with some respect, however, first you must respect yourself. good luck and God bless
2006-11-05 06:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You almost told my story. My guy calls me to come to his place after I get off work. He never comes to my house, doesn't make the effort to see me when he can take me out, after a great night of pleasure, I don't see or talk to him for maybe a week.
I finally decided that I am worth a whole lot more than his good time. If your guy can't find a way to make you a part of his life, he is holding you back from having a great one. There are plenty of things to do that cost very little to nothing. I know great sex is hard to pass up but the lack of caring and love is not...
2006-11-05 05:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by Julie W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok im in same situation...i haev a booty call as well.but.he buys condoms.he comes ta me we do live close to eachother though.but..i see things dif in 3 weeks.he holds me comes by now any time of day he holds me kisses me all over tells me im beautiful.and said i wanna take u out.he jokes with me watches movies etc we even cooked dinner now.its been 3 weeks .and i think he does like me now,u iwllknow if he does.its different.dont ask him he may get scared away.how long are u 2 seeing eachoither.if its a month or more then he just loves ur booty.i know he has no work but he can do otherthings,make u dinner.hold u all nite whenu sleep .at least go to 99c store buy teh condoms,lol.imsyure he can get that.dont buy nothin.ull see if he cares.
2006-11-06 11:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by cbutterflyc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, you're just a booty call to him. He says that stuff to you so that he won't lose you. Any guy who only sees women at night is looking for sex, not a relationship. Sorry ^^; It's good that you don't believe him when he says he treats you like he would his girlfriend, because we both know that's bull LOL
2006-11-05 05:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by High On Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aside from the sex, why would you want to date a guy who has no job? Aside from sex, what is this guy giving you? Look at it this way, you should be the one using him for sex while you look for a man who has more to offer. If he steps up to the plate, maybe you can get something going. Otherwise enjoy the sex but keep your eyes open for a man who can take care of you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Good luck.
2006-11-05 05:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should have at least asked you out by now, and I think birth control is for the women to buy and condoms are for the man to buy. I'm sure you are a very beautiful woman and you deserve someone who has a job and is going to take you out.
2006-11-05 08:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a woman, I don't understand why you are letting him be more important than you. He is using you and you are running the risk of being hurt and not just in the broken heart arena. Take more pride in who you are and start putting yourself first. You are worth it.
The only potential I see in this relationship is if you get smart and dump him.
2006-11-05 05:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by D.A. S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh dear...if you have to ask....you already know the answer to the question. I m sorry to say but it is painfully obvious that you have done what tons of us girls do do when we are within the grasps of a new and exciting relationship or connection ... and tht is to be too available, too generous and lastly too accomodationg to HIS needs. when in fact it should be that it is that we effort all of the needs that we need in ordser to be 100% for anyone else, otherwise what is the point really? none of the before mentioned are criminal nor wrong to act on and follow up by doing and engaging in within any given relationship....given intimate or platonic...but sweetie...if it is that the third is by far the most prevelant and consistantly played out of the three actions or threads that have been occuring in your connections ...well then you have gotten it all wrong and well as human nature has its many flaws that in which i see as the worst committed not only by men but we all human female and male is tht we push to see just how much we can get away with. For when else is it tht we can be well to be blunt, ruthless, and selfish without caution nor care and not have to be expected to do anything in return...for afterall these were offerings and we need not be responsible for any one elses silenced expectations now should we? ....so once u tk the time to stand back and tk notice tht it is yours responsibility and for lack of a better term fault at this point it is such due simply because there is no one whom can get away with anyone act if it is put to a stop upon first attempt at executing. So if it is tht you dont speak up it is on you. You teach people how it is that you are to be treated. Please dont allow your feelings of sexual fulfillment override the more important longer lasting aspects that are the true threads of any relationship and the measure of wether it is going to be one of equality and withstand any thing over an orgasm if you will. tHIS REMINDS ME OF A SAYING...CLOSED MOUTHS DONT GET FED. pLEASE DONT FALL VICTIM TO THE OLDEST FORM OF U GET WHT U DESERVE THRU ALLOWANCE OF THE VERY BEHAVIORS IN WHICHARE THOSE THAT UPSET OR CONFUSE YOU TO CONTINUE. you have a voice and you are allowed to speak up. dont waste wht is your given right as a human on this planet by silencing what it is that may bring confusion or disconcerning feelings of plays on your kindness.
It will never be wrong to be accomodating but be sure that u are accomodating for all the right reasons and not to do so with the hopes of getting something in return...then that expectation will only leave you empty and unfullfilled i am afraid. be woman be strong and true to yourself...you are afterall all of those things if you allow yourself to be. yOU MAY BE HIS BOOTY CALL FOR INTUITIVELY YOU KNOW THAT HE ISNT THE RIGHT ONE FOR YOU AND YOU HV ALLOWED AN INNOCENTLY MADE COMMON MISTAKE OF RELATING OR EQUATING SEX AS LOVE ...SURE IT IS A FORM OF ATTENTION ...YET IS IT ALL THT YOU HAVE AND ARE RECEIVING ATTENTION BY FROM THE OTHER IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP? YOU KNOW THE ANSWER ...TRUST ME YOU DO. IT IS OK TO BE A BOOTY CALL JUST AS LONG AS HE IS FOR YOU AS WELL. dont loose sight to you have the roifght to be the decider here too. good luck gurl.
2006-11-05 06:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by aprilrayneme 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sha, chick, I feel for you. This guy is playing you for a fool, and you need to make it stop.
You're a booty call, that ain't no lie. You need to get your act together, for real
2006-11-05 05:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by Fluffy the Ephemeral 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋