5 years ago I knew a guy. I met him 10 years ago, but we were sort of acouple sort of NOT a couple. I was too young then. I am 23 right now. Before 5 years ago, we had a somewhat sexual relationship. Not a very verbal close one, but more of an understanding. Well, I recently caught up with him again, and we started seeing each other and eventually slept together again. He kept saying things like "no matter who you marry you will always belong to me" but not in that weird creepy way. I also have two children, and he spent an entire day playing with them. He kept holding my 8 month old son, and later told me he wants children in the future. Now, the way we are, and with him being how vague he is, I am confused. Was that at me, or was he saying he wants children just in general in the future? He says that he "cares" for me all of the time, but won't say the L word. I am in the process of a divorce from a man I did not know well and ended up getting broken bones from. Ideas?
2006-11-04 21:07:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You know him better than we do.
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My experience with men is actually quite limited.
I mean, I have 4 brothers, and at work, I'm way out-numbered.
This is what my father always used to say, though: "Never say 'I love you'" And his reason for this was: words have no meaning. It's what you do that counts.
My husband, on the other hand, says "I love you" now and then just out of the blue. It's kind of a password between us.
Now if you need verbal reassurances, and he's not the type to give it, you may always be wondering. Men aren't the greatest mind-readers in the world. Just ask what his intentions are. That would be the simplest
2006-11-04 21:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Definitely never sleep with him again. Milk shouldn't be free. Second if he was talking about you he would have made that apparent.
I'd through this fish back, sounds like a minnow at best. I believe "Rogue Male" also fits here.
Have courage and best of luck to you
2006-11-04 21:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by eliteflycaster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time on your own getting to know yourself. To be in a mature relationship, you need to be mature yourself. You are still very young. I can't imagine anyone saying "No matter who you marry you will always belong to me" in a non-weird creepy way. It's wierd and creepy no matter how you slice it.
2006-11-04 21:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rico Toasterman JPA 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The man is telling you he does not want to settle down.He will not say the L word because he is not in love.
I would give yourself a break from men for awhile.And figure why you are attracted to this type of man.You can't figure out them till you figure out yourself first.
2006-11-04 21:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by eva b 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Put on your track shoes and get out of there. Find the man you are looking for and don't look back. He is telling you but you don't want to hear it.
2006-11-04 21:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by michaelsan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cannot understand men----never will. But, this man is easy to read. He is using you . Get rid of him.
2006-11-04 21:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by Shossi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋