5 years ago I knew a guy. I met him 10 years ago, but we were sort of acouple sort of NOT a couple. I was too young then. I am 23 right now. Before 5 years ago, we had a somewhat sexual relationship. Not a very verbal close one, but more of an understanding. Well, I recently caught up with him again, and we started seeing each other and eventually slept together again. He kept saying things like "no matter who you marry you will always belong to me" but not in that weird creepy way. I also have two children, and he spent an entire day playing with them. He kept holding my 8 month old son, and later told me he wants children in the future. Now, the way we are, and with him being how vague he is, I am confused. Was that at me, or was he saying he wants children just in general in the future? He says that he "cares" for me all of the time, but won't say the L word. I am in the process of a divorce from a man I did not know well and ended up getting broken bones from. Ideas?
2006-11-04 21:07:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Seems to me that he is opening the door for you, but letting you decide when the time is good for you to draw closer to him before he starts talking love and commitment. He's taking it slow, he really loves you.
2006-11-05 03:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good job getting rid of the assh ole! But now you seem to have picked up an emotionally detached sort of guy. Please be careful with this guy. The 'always belong to me' comment is a little psycho, whether you see it that way or not.
I'd encourage you to find a man who isn't afraid to tell you he loves you, when the time is right, and isn't afraid to show you by his actions all the time.
I'd also suggest that you you work on getting to know yourself again. Figure out where you want to be in a year, 5 years, and 10 years. Recognize if you've made good or bad decisions involving men up untill now and decide if you need to make a change.
Lastly, Don't settle for a pretty good guy when you could have the perfect guy for you. You are an intelligent woman who's capable of taking care of herself. It may be better to go without a man for a while instead of getting involved with a guy who isn't right for you. You have a lot riding on this now, not just your feelings, but the emotional and physical health of your children, too.
I've got a bad feeling about this guy you'belong' to. Please consider everything and make careful decisions. Good luck!
2006-11-06 05:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read this book:
Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul by John Eldredge
2006-11-05 06:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I applaud you for having the courage to divorce a man who was so unhealthy for you. I don't have any advice, but wanted to say it sure sounds like you are on the right track! I wish you the very best in love and life.
2006-11-04 21:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by wine&foodcat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't seen him for years, be careful or you'll end up in another bad situation.
From the sound of it, he is getting the milk for free, why would he buy the cow and calves?
Some may not like to hear me recommend it, but tune in to Dr Laura for a few days. You may get some insight.
You can find out her radio schedule and stations at http://www.drlaura.com
2006-11-04 21:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope he is not using you. I mean he gets the best of both worlds ,you ,sex,attention.But he doesnt have to commit.Think twice before doing it again.Then again he might be genuine and just scared of commitment,go with your heart
2006-11-04 21:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by lakersfanatic132 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be careful and take your time...you're not even through 1 crisis in your life...get through the divorce first and then start to think about other things...ie him.
2006-11-04 21:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from a guywho says you will alway belong to me
2006-11-04 23:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by bkbarile 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
jell-o.
thats as detailed as it gets.
2006-11-05 12:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by jessej 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is not really into you (get it!)
2006-11-04 21:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋