5 years ago I knew a guy. I met him 10 years ago, but we were sort of acouple sort of NOT a couple. I was too young then. I am 23 right now. Before 5 years ago, we had a somewhat sexual relationship. Not a very verbal close one, but more of an understanding. Well, I recently caught up with him again, and we started seeing each other and eventually slept together again. He kept saying things like "no matter who you marry you will always belong to me" but not in that weird creepy way. I also have two children, and he spent an entire day playing with them. He kept holding my 8 month old son, and later told me he wants children in the future. Now, the way we are, and with him being how vague he is, I am confused. Was that at me, or was he saying he wants children just in general in the future? He says that he "cares" for me all of the time, but won't say the L word. I am in the process of a divorce from a man I did not know well and ended up getting broken bones from. Ideas?
2006-11-04 21:05:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sounds to me that he is trying to tell you that he wants kids with you. If he is saying he cares for you and then if he admires your son alot and says he wants kids at kind of at the same moment I believe he is insisting it with you. Love can be weird sometimes you never know how it will start out or end up its just that chance you take. If yall where together in present tense and now yall are back together it sounds to me yall have a very good connection and maybe yall will actually be together til the end. Hope this helps. And remember this is only my opinion.
2006-11-04 21:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His statement of No matter who you marry to me sounds like your current relationship with him is one of friends with benefits. Currently speaking, he has no interest ina real solid relationship with you. It's more of a 'well if your in the area we could fool around." But just as likely that afterwards he'll say his farewells and be gone again by dawn, still your friend, but not your true lover. If you'd like to date him, you should try asking him out, straight to his face. Witht he way he says in a future wistful tone that he would like children some day, he seems like he wants a relationship, but isnt looking to settle down anytime soon-if you can keep to casual dating and don't mind a wait, you could have a very nice engagement as boyfriend/girlfriend for a while. Just don't rush it-he did say one day: he didn't mean any time soon, and that would mean with anyone. The way he's speaking, he just sees you on a friend to friend level, he's not even thinking any serious involvement. To him, the act of sex is simply two friends satisfying some long kept over needs. I would advise approaching him about the possibility of dating on a boyfriend/girlfriend basis, but be causal and easy going about it. At the very least, you'll find out how he really feels and save yourself any further heartache. The best of luck to you!
2006-11-04 21:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by Drisana R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The men you pick are perfect for being a spirit husband as they call it. No support is ever expected or received. You will have to find a nice person to live with and get support from. It will happen just keep hoping and learn to read the type of people you are with. Accept that you are an outsider and don't keep falling in love with the winner-players.
2006-11-05 00:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you can do two things, you can take advise from different man and or women about what they think is going on in his head.
OR
You can talk to him and ask him how he feels. It sucks being left in the dark and if you want to have a healthy relationship with someone you HAVE to communicate, it can't all be physical. So try asking a question about how to communicate with a man instead of how to read their minds.
2006-11-04 21:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by chibisu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only answer is ask Him straight out,I was in almost the exact situation,He did say he Loved me all the time,but his idea of Love was different from mine.He says He always wants Me in his life
even after He marries and has His own children,long story short
I said why did you say you love me? I do but not in that way,well
stick a knife in my heart.You need to know the truth,I hope it is not the painful truth I learned.Best wishes !
2006-11-04 22:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by gwhiz1052 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man's mind looks at your headline, and then sees a long questioned and he just goes on to the next Question. lol
2006-11-04 21:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
different men are different
2006-11-04 21:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by q6656303 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋