2006-11-04 20:51:03 · 6 answers · asked by shellnjay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as you have discussed it and set firm rules in place and stick to them there should be no problem, and also as long as you both agree on the people you do it with. There also has to be a strong trust between you. You have to have a strong marriage before you even consider swinging. If you are already having problems in your marriage then swinging is NOT for you. It will do MORE HARM than good.
Besides isn't the definition of cheating doing something behind the others back or without their knowledge? If so then if you are doing it together it isn't cheating. LOL
2006-11-05 09:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by trollwzrd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, no, I wouldn't. I'd feel like I would if he surprised me with a vacation to Cancun! But then again, I know the way my husband thinks and the way he feels about me...and about other women. We've swung before (are currently taking a monogomous break from the lifestyle...) and we loved it. I know that cheating is just not a part of our thinking, and it is completely unneccesary. I know that he's attracted to other women, and that is just fine with me. More than fine, in fact. If he's living a full exciting life, and is happy, then that makes me very happy.
The real question is: if YOUR lover told you he wanted to try swinging, do you think he means what he says?...Or is it just a ruse? Is he already cheating and just looking for a way to "break it to you gently?" The only way to know for sure is to ask him point blank. You CANNOT swing successfully without complete, absolute, pure honesty. This kind of honesty is a lot of work, and can be very uncomfortable, but the benefits to one's relationship are unbelievable.
2006-11-05 17:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you are referring to is he cheating now. It may be that he is just sharing his intimate thoughts with you, but when it comes down to it, he may not go through with swinging with you as most male egos can not handle it. Most men imagine their woman doing it with another girl but he takes the risk of loosing you. Some may go into 2 guys and you, if so he perhaps wants to get with the other guy and is bi anyway and you are the excuse caught in the middle. My advice, don't do it either way. Too much porn is normally the problem or he wants a guy.
2006-11-05 05:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. If he is seeing what you think about it he might not be. I don't consider it cheating if you 2 were to swing.He needs his partner to swing with another couple.
2006-11-05 05:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... Swinging is not a real relationship, he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Don't be the icing!
2006-11-05 04:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by Tigerlillie 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nope, sharing isn't cheating.
2006-11-08 13:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋