im in love with my man but im worried as i have had bad things happen to me in the past boyfriend im a lil worried as i just dont realy trust everyone alot. things like when some one goes to cuddle me i flinch and just dont like it im affraid hewill think it is because of him but it is not at all. what should i do?
i love him so very much an i just worried ill hurt him. he knows all about what my last boyfriend did to me, it just is worring for me as i dont want him to think it is him.
he knows all about the problems an i know i love him and nothing will change that ever
2006-11-04 20:49:20 · 9 answers · asked by NAUGHTY GURL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him.Love is sharing.Dont shut him out,then he wil think its him.Yes its hurts but past exp hapens,but u learn and move on.U shouldnt let ur past bad exp to impact this one. With love there has to be some trust. Good luck.
2006-11-04 21:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by sexyangel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time does help a lot but the best thing you can do right now is to let him see this question you have asked and let him in on your thoughts and what we all say. If he loves you as much as he should then he will love to see this. Life is a strange thing and everyone is diffrent just let him be your guide to being happy again and all will be good if its ment to be.
Men are not all the same is what you have to keep telling yourself.
2006-11-05 04:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jinxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just worried too much. Is hard to trust anybody, I don't. This way I'm not going to be disappointed. I made a lot of wall to protect myself. I don't want loose what I have, but whatever is to risky to hurt me I stay away. I trust myself only. I don't go back to whatever and by whoever bad happened in my past. Be yourself, enjoy the life , look positively not be afraid to get what you want.
2006-11-05 05:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish people here would give their ages. If you flinch from him, and say you care for him, I think you have some issues that need to be addressed, if not you may become frigid or go lesbian in time. You need to find out why you react like this before you continue in this relationship, sooner or later you will hurt him.
2006-11-05 04:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk while it happens. Maybe the two of you could get some counseling to help with the communication. I can tell you really want it to work. Good luck!!!
2006-11-05 04:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him i thing you should tell him and make him loves you a lot.I thing you are a pretty and an intelligent woman and you know how to make a men to loves you, good like and a very beautiful life next to your lover
2006-11-05 04:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by alina a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVE IT TIME AND BE PATIENT. the pains will heal over time. be open and communicate your feelings to yur new man. good luck
2006-11-05 04:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can help yourself to get beyond that by cuddling him first.
letting yourself enjoy the relationship will help both of you!
2006-11-05 04:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some therapy for abuse victims.
2006-11-05 04:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋