I want a relationship that is not based on sex, but there doesn't seem to be any men out there that aren't just thinking about getting physical all the time. I just want a man to respect my decision to wait. Are there decent men out there that will? Please not rude remarks.
2006-11-04 20:31:56 · 21 answers · asked by vmarie84 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It will ALWAYS be on their minds, and weeding out the bad ones are up to you. Make him wait. I made my fiance wait and he said that he respected me for it and loved the fact that we became best friends first. Please, stick to your decision. Many men will expect sex from you because that's what they're used to getting from other girls who don't respect their bodies as much as you. A relationship that starts out as a physical one usually shuts off the opportunity to build a proper foundation. Good luck, there are some good men out there!
2006-11-04 20:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately.. not too many - or they are just hard to find. Of course there are probably a lot of men out there who would respect this and it is very respectable-- escpecially these days to wait for someone you love and who you are committed to. I think it is.
It also depends on your age.. guys have different things on their minds at different ages, less mayturity when they are younger.. maybe you are in the age range right now where guys are only thinking about this. I am not sure how old you are but if that is possible, don't give up hope and give in - you will find someone who is into you for you, will wait for you, respect your decision and want to make a relationship out of the other things that really mean more and can be even more intimate than sex. The right guy is out there..
:o)
2006-11-05 04:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear you have strong values and you want some one with similar values as you have. Have you gone to place where young people like yourself have similar values like church or even gone online to Christian chat rooms an date areas. I don’t think what your wanting is unreasonable. I was a virgin when I was married and that was a true blessing. It lasted 24 years and I have many good memories. On the other hand I have been on the other side of the street too. I won’t get into details but it’s not rewarding truly for any one if a relationship is just about sex. Know I am not gay and there are men like me out there in your age group who will be appreciative of your values. It’s well worth the wait. Guess God knew what he was talking about after all.
I did some great searches and wow I think I check them out too on christian dates... What you think about them?
2006-11-05 04:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by Panda Lover 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
and i would like to find a woman that is loyal and honest.
one that marriage vows mean something. u think people look at u because u have no kids at 25, try being 37 and never been married. all i ever hear is "why aren't u married? ur a nice guy.........blah blah blah"
a couple of months ago i dated a girl and less than one week later she started telling me how much she loved me. she couldn't even tell me my last name. what happen to courtship? taking the time to get to know someone.
i think a good woman would be worth waiting for, but finding her is another story.
2006-11-05 05:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a sad thing but our society is sex-starved. You will not find many satisfied people now days. The ones you will find are in relationships with secure people.
Sex and sexual need is possibly the most neglected part of our society. Thanks to many religions that have unrealistic expectations of the common person and avoid acknowledging this human need, we are faced with a depraved culture that is often desperate, ungraceful and even criminal. Nobody fills the gap so people go "underground" and get crappy sex education from shady magazines and friends. We are told we can deny this part of our nature and since that is a lie, it comes out in harmful and ugly ways.
2006-11-05 04:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by furshluginer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course there is...i usually wouldn't even WANT to have sex if i really really love her...ur ex boyfriends probably all went out with you only to show their friends and other people how hot their girlfriend is. if u lower ur standards a bit and go for the more not so pretty boys you'll be surprised at just how beautiful they can be inside and how respectful they are, but not nerds...i f*cking hate nerds...
2006-11-05 04:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hallo,
I wish I could be the one,you know sex is OK,but to love someone for what the are is better,and to be lovers and Friends,respect and be with each other,even better.I wish you all the Best,if you cant find,please E-Mail me,Ks
2006-11-05 04:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by karl s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my buddies was like that, a virgin until late twenties even though he had girlfriends. He finally caved, but he did try to build relationships rather than something purely physical.
Sorry to say that he was definitely in the minority.
2006-11-05 04:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by justdennis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are men who want more than just sex.
2006-11-05 04:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are ,but they are like finding a needle in a hay stack. But be your self and don't give up or give in. Mr. right will come to you when you least expect it. It's worth waiting for.
2006-11-05 04:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by Deerrunner 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋