are we too young??

Question

I love him more then anything in the world...
We’ve been together for almost a year now but from the very first time I saw him I knew there was something different. im almost 16 and he’s 17...we tell each other "I love you" and say that we are in love...I know he believes it and so do I but I want to move to the next level and he says he does too but its not practical at this age.....so my question is if we really feel the way we say we feel and hardly ever fight then are we to young and why? does age really matter? im not talking about getting married just engaged.... you can say you love someone all you want and it only counts if you actually feel it and I know we feel it. him and I will always be together weather or not he asks me now or in a million years...I just hate standing still....

so my question is... if we really feel the way we say we feel and hardly ever fight then are we to young and why? does age really matter?

Answer 1

im 15 and my bf is 18, we've known eachother for 3 years, and have been best friends all the way through. recently he gave me a promise ring, not engagement, but just to show that what we have is real, and we think we are to young, but when the time comes (if it does) then when im out of highschool, and we are both ready we'll move on to the bigger and better *engagement*. wait, and think seriously how much you love him, we are teenagers, we dont know what we want, and we havent faced the real world as adults yet.

Answer 2

usually it does, but you may be different. You've been together for a year. Some people need more than a year, some people can tell the instant they meet each other (as was the case with my cousin and her husband. Then again, they're currently in their 30's, and they got married about two years ago after dating for about a year, I think). I know you feel like you're at some kind of stand still, but you're not. If you're in love, then time shouldn't matter, only the quality of the time. And remember, unless you're the perfect couple, you will fight sometime, simply because it's nigh impossible for it not to happen.

Answer 3

Your words "I just hate standing still". You are 15 years old. You have all the time in the world to pledge your commitment to each other. You probably don't want to hear it but you also are going through a stage in your life in which everything changes. Your body, your personality, the things you like to eat and the things you enjoy doing will all evolve over the next few years. You might find that things which seem soooooo important right now are going to seem pretty trivial in a few years. Your boyfriend is walking the same path.

Take your time, if you still feel this strongly after you've completed your education then by all means, marry him. If something has changed, then you've avoided one of the biggest mistakes a young adult can make.

Answer 4

No age does not matter.
My husband and i are both 30 now but when we met we were 16 and 17 too! No of course you are not too young to feel love.
I think you sound very smart to be asking these questions at all.
However, I would just say, be aware that love does change over the years. I now realise my husband is not the perfect man, I once idealised him to be. We have grown up together pretty much and I feel very blessed to have this relationship.
But even if you and your boyfriend dont end up married, first love is always sweet and beautiful and something you will always cherish, even when you're 90! So just enjoy it. Enjoy your feelings.

Answer 5

I know it is hard to listen to others when you are in love, you are kind of looking through beer tainted goggles if you will excuse the term. I've been through what you're going through, and I'm telling you that if you stick to one person in your young dating years you will always look back and wish you hadn't. You will always wish or wonder if there might have been someone better suited for you.

You will fight by the way, it's the nature of the beast, that's just a matter of time. How you deal with it will tell you your commitment level.

However, I don't feel like you will know this untill a little later in life. It's like anything else, you can't just jump in a stock car and expect to win the race the first time. My advice is to take relationships when you are young with caution, and date around before getting so attached to someone. Don't date one person exclusively. It will show you what kind of person best fits you, and which do not. Best of luck to you :)

Answer 6

Your 16 and he's 17 so what happens after you guys graduate high school? Are you planning on going to college together? Or you even planning on going to college? I think right now this is just to early for you to get engaged, you say you guys will be together forever so go see the world, go to college.

If when your 20 and he's 21 and you still feel the same way why not go for it. What's the rush in getting engaged? Good Luck with your decision.

Answer 7

all getting engaged will do is get you a pretty ring.

if you love each other there wont be a large difference in being engaged or not. go for that financial security step first.

It just isn't very practical to be the worlds most enamored pair of homeless people.

Answer 8

yes u guys r to young take it for me im 31 and ive been with my husband for 17 yrs yes u do the math i say livee your life cuz u lose alot.u might say wow 17 yrs but right now i think were together because we r all we know so live your life if use r meant to be then it will happen

Answer 9

Sit and discuss your future
what will you study? where ? will you be together? where will you live?
If you plan on doing all of this together then go for it but be engaged until you are at least 18 when you are sure you know this is what you want and you have your future settled.

Answer 10

The age really doesn't matter, but you need to think what really you're doing and always think in the future. Think before you act. Don't worry about the age its OK. ; )

Kiss.