what can i do if the long distance gf i have is so under my skin that i cant get her outta my mind, things arnt going that well at the mo i love her but i dont think she is good for me but i still think about her all the time soon as i wake up etc, its affecting my health now i smoke and drink cos of it and sometimes feel like i having a neervous breakdown help wot shud i do
2006-11-04 19:54:52 · 11 answers · asked by john d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i only smoke and drink cos it calms me down from the pressure she puts me under, financial etc
2006-11-04 20:01:34 · update #1
go out and enjoy yourself,you will soon find somebody better who will love you for who you are
2006-11-04 19:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she makes you feel like this then it cant be right. Long distance is always hard but at some point one of you has to make the decision to move so you can be together properly. If you don't think either of you will then where is this relationship going?
You think she is no good for you then why be with her? You are stopping you both from potentially being happy with someone else.
Cut out the drinking and soon you will start to see things more clearer.
2006-11-05 04:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she makes you feel like that then its probably love... and you aren't the first to feel it.
consider all the good points against the bad points, and then ask if each is really that important. How does she feel? Can you spend more time with her to work out what you want? Why do some guys put money before relationships?
If you know she is stringing you along.. get out now,. it will hurt more later. If its just your inner turmoil, let it happen... go see her...
Id rather work a little harder and make something good last than give up and dwell on it 20 years later....
2006-11-05 05:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by miz Destiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trow you life away for anyone. You know that this is not a good relationship so get out of it. Try hanging around with your friends. Being with other people will make you think less of her. Go out and enjoy yourself. I am not saying it's going to be easy getting over her but you will have to make the first step. After that it will get easier. You obviously love her but at the end of the day you will have to think about you as well and your health and happiness. Just go out and try to enjoy yourself, you will find someone better. Good Luck!
2006-11-05 04:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by Vicki Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it sounds obvious ,when every one says , move on, but the only answer for you is to find another relationship, possibly closer to where you live, and try to cut down the smoking and drinking to a lower level. Good Luck.
2006-11-05 04:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by learned_old_sage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You smoke and drink because you choose to do so, there is no way that anyone with any REAL sense will blame somone far away for that.
Relationships are supposed to be a good thing to be in. If they are not then there is no point in being in it.
2006-11-05 03:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
cant either of you move closer?i know i would if some1 meant that much to me.although i dont think shes bringing the best out in you+you mentioned financial strain....you shouldnt be providing for her.shes not your wife or mum to your kids so she shouldnt be expecting any handouts.it is possible to be so into some1 even though you know they,re no good.i,d say move on but thats easier said than done i know
2006-11-05 04:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by Nellynoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dont think shes is good for you then leave her as she is affecting your health badly
you love her but if its not working leave ok you will be upset but you will get over it
no girl is worth your health suffering
2006-11-05 04:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by veronica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either move closer to be with her, or break all contact and move on. Which one would be better for your health?
2006-11-05 05:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move closer to her
2006-11-05 03:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋