I am a domestic abuse survivor. I have been abused for 18years mentally, physically and sexually. My step dad was a control freak and kept me in my room. I never had any friends and I wasn't allowed to talk on the phone. I get panic attacks..anxiety attacks, hot flashes, back flashes. Chest pain, heart pain when I am around people. I have a hard time talking to people and making friends. I try to be myself but I still haven't made any friends. Ihave been to councelling all the time and I suffer from mounds of depression and sadness from my lost childhood. How do I cope?
2006-11-04 19:51:40 · 8 answers · asked by Kgirl 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have not been in your situation and I am so sorry for what you have had to endure. It could not have been easy.
I have some suggestions. I don't know if they will help or not but I hope so. I am not any kind of therapist or anything like that just a person trying to give you some suggestions to help.
Join a chat room here on yahoo. Find people to talk to about what every you want to talk about. Be careful about giving out personal info like address, phone #, or ssn. You don't want to do that. It can be dangerous.
Get a My Space account. You can blog (write) your feelings as a diary that no one else can see. You can blog things that only your friends can see. You can blog things /thoughts that any one can see. You can search to find people you may know and have a friends page. I will be happy to be your friend.
Do the IM thing with people
If you attend church, join a Bible study or small group.
What hobbies do you have? Join a group that do this.
Find a new hobby.
Volunteer at a hospital or nursing home. People there do not get out much and need new friends/faces.
Volunteer at a museum or zoo.
Write a story or book about what you have gone through. It may never be published but it might help you get your feelings down on paper.
Best of luck. It will get better. Be yourself. You will make friends in time. I do believe that.
2006-11-04 20:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like using one of my Agatha Christie methods to poison or kill your step father, but I won't do so 'cos it's wrong to kill and two wrongs don't make a right. So, the best you could do is try moving on from what happened. Let the past belong where it should be. This is the present, and it's called "Present" for a good reason. It's a gift that any living creature can use if only they want to.
All the best, my dear!
2006-11-04 20:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must of been a horrible experience for you to go through, but I know exaclt how you feel.
I belive you are doing everything rite, Keep going to counselling and maybe even try going to your Dr to get some meds or something. It mite even help if you find a place where you can talk to people that have been through it, and know what you are going through.
But trust me it alwasy gets better there will always be good day in the end of it all, sometiems it doesnt feel like it but there is, If you belive that it will help you pull through!
Stat safe adn stay stong
xoxo
2006-11-04 20:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it one day at a time. You didn't state how long you have been in couseling, but these types of behavior do not correct themselves overnight. It took me 8 years and 6 doctors before I finally noticed any kind of improvement. If you've been with the same person for a long time and haven't noticed an improvement, you might want to start looking for another therapist, or a different kind of therapy technique.
You may also want to talk about medication with your therapist; meds do have their drawbacks, but sometimes the benefits far outweigh the disadvantages. In my case, they did.
2006-11-04 20:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by Flea© 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
survivor is a key phrase. acceptance of the fact you were abused, you were a victim of someone elses sickness. Forgiveness for the disease, not the abuse. Love yourself, protect yourself by recognizing any signs in future relationships and get out, fast. Set YOUR standards, You deserve to Love and be Loved.
abuse of any kind is sick, and has nothing to do with who you are, it is thier problem and you have had enough. again, Love yourself, First.
seek support from other victims and know your not alone.
2006-11-04 20:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds simplistic for me to tell you this but it helps to have a good friend whom you can confide in. You need someone who you can trust to talk to. It helps.
2006-11-04 20:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Princess_29_71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure this will help to change your Life
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2006-11-07 07:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
read more http://reliefstress.blogspot.com/
2006-11-04 19:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by give h 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋